sexless relationship

[nailit]

could you / do you, live in a sexless relationship?
How important is sex to a relationship?

[lcg]

depends on the people i guess - very important in my relationship. i love mr kicker for his personality and....ahem...and a couple of anatomical parts! imho...it gets better with age (your sex life, i mean) x

[nungate]

Scorpio, maybe you make the first move. Get a babysitter and take your wife on a date, woo her all over again you never know it might work. Just don't try and rush her back to bed, take your time and get to know each other like it was when you first met.

[DTCwordfan]

try a weekend away, no kid, in a nice hotel, long walks, your mutual interests etc etc - worked for me once, faced with a similar situation, scorpio........the irony was she hit her period, but the w/end broke the "ice"

[percypineapple]

at what age do you think people should stop having sex?? is there a point in time, or a mutual agreement, or is it one partner has had enough and calls a halt, is it fair on the other partner? Tricky question, i think, is it because one partner has got fed up with the other,sexually, but stays together to keep everything looking outwardly happy, or is there a medical problem behind it?

[DTCwordfan]

when one dies, percyp......

[Smowball]

I was once told by a "professional" that sex was 5 % of a good marriage and 95% of a bad one.

Not saying idf I agree or not.......

[Sqad]

\\\\could you / do you, live in a sexless relationship? \\

No I couldn't and no i don't.

This thread my expert advice which will take time and thought.....unfortunately i intend to "freshen up" and will return after breakfast (always go out for breakfast....except Sundays)

[NOX]

No unless the circumstances were exceptional I wouldn't live in a sexless relationship- you're not doing yourselves any favours being with someone who you either don't want to have sex with or who doesn't want sex with you. If it were the case that someone was ill that's different, but under normal circumstances then I doubt I'd hang around.

[ummmm]

No, I don't. I'm not sure how I'd feel. We go through periods of not doing it but it's not an issue because there's always love and affection. I think love and affection is more important.

[naomi24]

It depends on the circumstances. It is important, but as Ummmm says, love and affection are more important. Mine is a happy marriage so if one of us became incapable for some reason, we wouldn't split up.

In Scorpio's example there appears to be more to it than one of them just having 'gone off it'. He isn't happy in or out of bed - and if that were true of my relationship, then I woud call it a day.

As for children, I've never believed that children are a reason to stay together. Kids are better off living with one happy parent than with two unhappy parents.

[ummmm]

I agree Naomi. When my mum and dad split up it turned out to be a blessing in disguise. We were all much happier.

[cathfromsaron]

for me it would depend on why! if my husband were injured or disabled it wouldn't matter because i love him ... BUT if he didn't fancy me - or me him - that would be different! x

[rowanwitch]

Have done in the past 16 years of an 18 year relationship and about the last three years of my first marriage before that it was only a couple of times a year

Could do without sex....can't be without intimacy

[ojread2]

"do you love mummy more than me"?

what a thing to ask a child!

[Sqad]

Back from breakfast.

Now the OPer is a male and if one reads the question carefully he is alluding to a “sexless marriage” not a loveless one, nothing to do with emotion or children.

Sex…..intercourse, sh@gging, bonking….the physical act……..plain and simple….unless I have misunderstood the OP’s question.

Many scenarios here:

Firstly…neither partners interested in sex………no problem
Secondly…one partner needs sex, but the other doesn’t, in which case all is not lost.
If one partner expects the marriage to be celibate, then that is unreasonable and cannot expect his/her OH to follow suit……control their basic emotions as some posters will say.

Now, providing that the sexy partner can get extramarital sex or extra relationship sex, then the marriage can succeed. You can all argue and debate on another thread what you mean by a “happy marriage” without sex.

Is this state of affairs common………usually the woman losing interest in sex, but NOT the male…….in my experience….exceedingly common.
It is not unusual however for a woman to need satisfying sex if the husband is not “producing the goods.”

How are these , mostly men, catered for?.........affairs, massage parlours, prostitutes, escort agencies…..all of which are multimillion pound booming industries.

Could I live without sex………NO.
Is it available if my partner is not interested……..YES