Update on Nan

[NoMercy]

We have been given the devastating news that her uterine cancer is terminal. The tumour is just too massive and thus inoperable. Radiotherapy is not an option as she is just too weak. We have been told that she hasn't got much time option of going home or going to a hospice.

Could anybody tell us what we can expect in the final days and hours and what we can do to make her as comfortable as possible? X

[DaisyNonna]

My thoughts are with you. Hospice at Home sounds a wonderful facility.

[mrs.chappie]

So very sorry to hear this sad news, NM. (((HUG)))

[spotit3]

I would agree with others to let her have the choice whether she wants to die at home or in a hospice. My sister chose home but my cousin has just chosen to go into a hospice. Whatever you decide I will pray for you all as I know what a difficult thing it is to watch a loved one suffering.

[ladyalex]

Hello Nomercy. So sorry to hear your very sad news.

There is also the Marie Curie Nursing Service available via your Nan's GP if she decides to come home.
http://www.mariecurie...nursing-in-your-home/
My father-in-law was nursed by one of these wonderful ladies in his own home until the end. She was marvellous.

[pastafreak]

My heart goes out to you,and your family. Just be a comfort to your nan,and let her feel your love.
And make sure you take care of yourself also xx

[cazzz1975]

you have my deepest sympathies nom xxx

[micmak]

Just come on here NM. I'm very sorry to hear the news about you Nan. You have received good advice here. My thoughts are with you and your family at this very sad time.♥

[Brinjal]

God bless NoM

[NoMercy]

God knows, I don't want to lose my nan, but I hope this is over quickly for her.

A couple of months ago I asked her if she'd be coming to Malta next year for our wedding and she said she wouldn't miss it for the world. It's hard to believe she won't be there now.

[rowanwitch]

Hi

Sorry to hear NoM...
Pretty much echo most of what has been said... just make sure you access every service you can if Nan wants to be at home... If she does you will at least know you have respected her wishes... And you still have time to laugh over old memories with her... and once in a while the odd tear in her presence won't hurt it's ok for her to know you are sad and will miss her.. sometimes a show of emotion can prompt very special little conversations

[Smowball]

NoM, just wondered how things were today, after you have taken in the awful news yesterday? Am thinking of you, have been through it all with my mum and know exactly what you are going through. xx

[NoMercy]

I will be heading up there Friday after work. I spoke to mum earlier and the hospital then Doctors want to keep her in for the timebeing to give her more bloods.

Apparently Nan is very depressed and just wants to go home. :-(

[Traci66]

My heart goes out to you NoM, I went through this in 2010 with my dad, fortunately (or not) he only lasted three days after his diagnosis with lung and bone cancer, but we just tried to make him as comfortable as possible. He died with all his children at his bedside and thinking that he was going home. ((((. ))) big hugs to you xxx.

[guilliebrougues]

Heard on answerbank that Nan has died. My thoughts go out to you and your family. I like your chosen Daniel O'Donnell song" Our Special Absent Friends."
Be comforted in the knowledge that she is no longer suffering and we all have to go through the grieving process. And, if you can look back with fond memories it helps to ease the pain. Take care.

[excelsior-1]

it's all over, nomercy. thank the deities that the illness was brief.

my thoughts are with you and your clan at this tragic time

please take care .. and remember the good times with her

[craft1948]

What?.......................when?

[NoMercy]

I am not quite sure where the misunderstanding has occurred, but my Nan has not passed away.

In the last few days she was taken down for another scan, and yesterday, without much warning, they decided to send her to Cheltenham. She was collected by ambulance at 5pm yesterday and transferred over there. We don't want to get our hopes up at this stage, but this latest development is more encouraging.

[Euphemia]

I hope you get some better news NOM. My thoughts are very much with you and your family.

[NoMercy]

I think my Nan would wallop me if I chose Daniel O'Donnell. She's more of a Sinatra chick.

[NoMercy]

Thanks, Euphemia. X