Update on Nan

[NoMercy]

We have been given the devastating news that her uterine cancer is terminal. The tumour is just too massive and thus inoperable. Radiotherapy is not an option as she is just too weak. We have been told that she hasn't got much time option of going home or going to a hospice.

Could anybody tell us what we can expect in the final days and hours and what we can do to make her as comfortable as possible? X

[rockyracoon]

I can't give any advice but just wanted to say how sorry I was to read that. Xx

[tenrec]

Very sorry to hear that NoM. Sorry I can't help you with the info you need.

[DTCwordfan]

So sorry to hear that NoM

I would give MacMillan's a call and see if they can assist to get her home, at least for a few days.....

[Barmaid]

No Mercy, I can't advise either but I am really sorry to hear. Wishing you strength for the coming weeks. BM x

[NoMercy]

Sorry, we have been told that she doesn't have much time left and she was given the option of going home or going to a hospice.

[mike11111]

I think the Macmillan nurses would be your best bet for info and advice.

[NoMercy]

Thank you for your kind wishes. Apparently we are seeing the Social Worker on Tuesday, prior to her discharge back home.

[ummmm]

So sorry NoM :-((((

Is she conscious?

[excelsior-1]

me neither, and i'm very very sorry for you. let us please hope that it is as painless as possible and - dare i say it- all over in a short time thus reducing the amount of suffering time.

all my thoughts ......

[Smowball]

Am so so sorry. Having personally nursed my mum through terminal cancer at the very young age of 59 I know exactly what to expect. xx

[Mamyalynne]

Whether she is cared for at home or in a hospice, her pain will be well controlled, she may well sleep a lot, the nurses will advise you on practical matters - like keeping her mouth moistened etc

As much as you may want to hold her tight, be gentle , the nerve endings can be very sensitive...sit by her and speak softly about all the wonderful things you have done together - hearing is almost the last sense to go.

Very difficult times (I know) Sending my love.

Mamya ♥

[Smowball]

Agree with mamya - hearing is the last to go.

[DTCwordfan]

Here we are NoM - the lack of proposals is perhaps (i) the shock and (ii) you know best the individual way that this awful disease is playing out, the end usually something secondary....it is based on her condition and medical notes that the Macmillans will be best to advise how to give her the care and respect that she merits....

you all are in our thoughts..

[excelsior-1]

it was mcmillan nurses that tended to my father at home in the final week before he passed away with prostate cancer, so i agree with those who suggest you call them

[NoMercy]

Ummmm, yes and putting on a brave face. She's very weak and frail and rather confused and disorientated to place and time.

[sandyRoe]

Sorry to hear this, NOM.
May i add that Mamya's post is quite moving.

[Ann]

So sorry to hear this NoM, our thoughts and prayers are with you all, and we send you our love x

[chrissa1]

Oh I'm so sorry to hear your sad news NoM.

[NoMercy]

Thank you Mamya and all for the practical advice. X

[Smowball]

My mum went to a hospice but then demanded to go home. We(my sibllings and I) were with her every day, radio on, or tv, chatting, keeping things as normal as possible. McMillan nurses came in every day and were fantastic.