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Have been single for almost a year, and have just moved to a new city. Am not desperate, but really feel ready for another relationship. I've been told I'm good looking, but can't seem to find anyone.
Went speed dating in Feb, met a girl who I started seeing for about six weeks, but we were weren't really compatible. My question is, should I be out looking for someone or is it fated to happen? Try to socialise as much as possible but can't seem to find anyone.
Just be nice to find someone to share things with, go on holiday etc. My friends are all settling down and getting married. I've just turned 30 as well, which is a landmark age for a single man, apparently.
Sorry to mope, but any comments would be appreciated.
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.I agree. You'll be sorry if you rush into something just because your friends are all doing it. Don't worry about being single when they're married because you will still have the freedom to come and go as you please, go where you want when you want without having to take anyone else into account, etc. Be selfish while you can!
You have an extra pressure on you anyway, moving to a new city. That in itself can be quite stressful. You're good looking so you won't be short of admirers and you're right: it is fated to happen when it happens, so nothing you do will change that. You'll know when the time comes that it's right.
I don't think 30 is a landmark age for a man (or a woman) really, certainly wasn't for my husband. 40? Well maybe. You're still young and you have loads of time ahead of you so make the most of it, enjoy!
I'm in exactly the same position, I'm 30 in a couple of months have been single for a year and was ready for another relationship, after trying online dating, meeting nice guys who just weren't right and awful guys who've just let me down, i'm at the stage of giving up! I know they say when you stop looking it will happen, but it can't be forced, you can't 'pretend' you're not looking.
For me, I am vowing to myself to concentrate on myself. On my work, on my home, my life style, my finances. Making myself as happy as i can be.
Relish using every corner of your double bed, relish never having to tell anyone where you are or what you're doing, look at your friends in sympathy when they have to leave the pub early on a really good night because their wife has rung them 17 times. If I want to eat spag bol every night for a week, I can. If I want to spend �100 on shoes i'll never wear, I only have to ask myself. Try and look for all the possitives in being single and enjoy them while you can. It won't always be like that and at least you'll be able to relate to your children because you will have lived before you've had them.
Am I convincing you yet ;o)