How Big Of An Age Difference Is Too Big?

[Ann321]

am 19 and he is 34 (I know big age difference!). He comes quiet often to the cafe where I work. We joke around like, I do with many of the customers. We started flirting a couple months ago, but still very small amount and I did not think too much about it. Until the other day, as he paid for his food he handed me his number. Part of me knows there is a huge age difference and to walk away now. The other part thinks I'm very mature for my age and he seems to be a little immature... can we meet somewhere in the middle mentally? What should I think of this? I'm not looking for you to make up my mind for me, but maybe just some kind advice. Thanks!

[magsmay]

Sqad - Thanks -was that your leopardskin mankini hanging off the beams in the Dungeon?

[Sqad]

LOL....cheeky woman.

[magsmay]

Sqad boasted //

tony....Sally Army girls.....brings back memories of one who sold "War Cries" in the Blind Beggar in Whitechapel in the 1950's.
Back of the pub, on the empty beer crates and those thick flannelette dark blue knickers. //

bl**dy h*ll Sqad you might be my dad lol!

[FredPuli43]

Disgusting, Sqad. Sally Army girls ! Where did you put the trombone?

[Sqad]

Well............I hope that your mother got rid of those bloody awful knickers......

[joko]

i went out with a 33 year old when i was 19 - he was cool and young at heart though so age gap was not an issue.

there is no right or wrong here - everyone is different and for some it would be too big to deal with, for others it would barely even be noticed - only you can know this

there is no reason why it couldnt work though - for plenty it works fine

[rsvp]

look at it logically - would you approach a man almost double your age and give him your number? You may think you are very mature but in all honesty Ann321 you ain't! Older men come on to younger, attractive females all the time and it's not always for their intellect !. You have obviously put out certain vibes to this man which on your part may well have been just a bit of friendly banter (always a tricky area - what one persons looks at as a bit of fun, others look on as serious) He's obviously not seen it this way and wants to take it further. Do you want this?
It may turn out to be the romance of the century but I doubt it -the fact that you think he is a little immature is not a good sign to me. Take care.

[mrs.chappie]

Give it a whirl and see how it goes. You might find you don't like each other anyway, once you start getting to know one another.

It's not like you need to decide whether to make any commitment to each other straight away. And time will tell if you're on the same wavelength.

[2sp_]

Life is far too short to worry about numbers.

This could be the perfect man for you or he may be a bum hole, but if you don't give it a chance how will you ever know?

Mr P is (only) 9 years younger than me and I can quite smugly say that we have a fantastic relationship and I can't imagine being without him.

If I had fretted about the age difference and not given us a go, I wouldn't be this disgustingly happy!

[sherrardk]

Himself is nearly 11 years older than me and it hasn't been a problem (so far). I think it depends upon the people involved, not the ages of the people.

[DaisyNonna]

Going out once or twice with someone does not mean a lifelong commitment. You may fall in love or just become good friends. Either would be acceptable.
Some people are just born flirts.