Allegiance

[cameliaheartfelt]

I keep putting off writing to a friend, a pen friend of many years actually. I am wanting to empathise with her after she told me that her husband had an affair and actually found them in bed together. My husband had an affair and we have stayed together. My friend is now separated. The thing is should I keep quiet about what happened to us as I have an allegiance to my husband don't I and surely it's no one else's business? Or do I tell her my experiences and then she may think we are stupid for staying together? She has never met my husband, she lives abroad and we probably won't see each other anyway though would love to meet her one day. As we are married should I be respectful to my husband by not telling anyone? I know the poor girl was heartbroken and want to empathise with her. What would you do?

[anneasquith]

camel. I think if your husband had an affair I'd think more than just you and him know about it.

[cameliaheartfelt]

Not in the new area we have moved to and in laws don't know.