Do younger girls like older men?

[Kev_UK]

OK, before anyone jumps to the wrong conclusion, I'm not talking about kids. Do 18 - 30 year old girls (women) like men in their 40's and why?
I am 44, but don't act like a pensioner.. my ex wife was 4 yrs older than me. Do younger women like guys my age.. and why? There must be some that can talk English (not this text lingo) that don't do drugs or binge drinking, and couldn't care less about pubs n clubs, and aren't saddled with kids.
Are older men seen as a walking wallet, or as stable and mature?
What kind of chat up lines work?

[B00]

That hole ya in isnt getting any shallower Kev!!!

Alot of older women let themselves go? oh c'mon please.....this is the 21C babes!

And I think alot of our larger sisters may not appreciate you claiming they have "nice personalities"......not to mention your statement "rolls of fat"

Last point (for now)........you dont need crappy chat up lines....a decent convo doesn't have them innit! try getting to know a women before you start sleazing up to her!!!!

[Ward-Minter]

Kev I see where you are coming from mate. Man to man I understand. Know what you mean about the younger lady having kids. The richest man in my town owns a second hand pram shop.

 

I would say that two kinds of females go for the older man. One is the incredibly thick chavvy kind. The other is the very intelligent know what they want out of life kind. The rest (and majority) probably go for the same age (ish).

 

Hope this makes sense.

[the>one]

helloooo.....just read this thread this morning.....very antagonistic towards the ladeeeez.....have you been hurt kev?........trying to find a young un to mould?.....my advice would  be to stop looking so hard and just keep an open mind.......a word to the wise....when you do chat to a lady..(young or old)..don't be so judgemental.........stop worrying somebodys after your money and have a little faith and trust.....good luck!! 

[georgit79]

Ladies- shall we just tell him 'no' and put him out of his misery?

I personally like older men, but only those who haven't already had a lobotomy.

[Lisax]

kev,

i am a 20 year old female and have recently just got out of a 2 year relationship with a 40 year old man. there is nothing wrong with the older man/younger woman relationships. it is all about the connection. if you connect well with someone this leads to love. i have no children and have a good job. i had a good upbringing so no one can say i was looking for a father figure either.

i live my life how i want to not how others expect me to. i do eventually want children but not untill i am 100% sure that the guy i am with is the guy i want to marry and spend the rest of my life with. age shouldnt matter... its just a number.

chat up lines dont work... you need to just be yourself, stand next to them at the bar and start a conversation when they are ordering a drink etc. but more than anything be careful as people in todays society are very opinionated on relationships with big age gaps.

hope this helps x

[Scarlett]

Kev, I despair..

I read all these messages thinking "give the guy a chance!" and I was about to answer your question seriously- do younger women like older men- when I got to the bit about rolls of flab.

Ohdearohdearohdearohdear.

My answer was going to be- YES I have always preferred older men, from the age of 10. seriously. I never fancied boys my own age, just my teachers! When I was 18 I fancied men in their 30s and 40s. Now I am in my 30s, I still fancy men who are older than me.

But with older comes WISER, or at least you would think so. Women, I am afraid, are not designed to have the figure of 10 year-old boys. They are designed to have babies, to have big squashy tummies to protect their wombs, to have curves and bosoms, and like it or not, these INCREASE with age. You can fight it, you can starve yourself, but your figure at 35 is never going to be what it was at 18.

You sound to me like a body fascist. You want a thin, young, intelligent, nubile, child-free woman, to dote on you and not expect money or kids from you, and to not notice the fact that you are OLD. Get real. What is going to happen to your slim totty when she hits 38? I'll tell you- a spreading waistline and probably the desire to have children. You will dump her, and go on the lookout for another model. Only this time you will be 65. Yuck.

With your attitude I'm afraid you get what you deserve. Open your mind a bit and you may actually find a soulmate who is beautiful inside and out, regardless of their thinness and credentials.

[Englishbird]

Oh Hear Hear Scarlett!! lol.

I too have read this thread with increasing exasperation. I thought it was a reasonable question initially but my god you've managed to offend pretty much every intelligent woman you could, even the slim, young, childless, solvent ones.

Taxi for Kev?!

[Ward-Minter]

Kev I just don't know why some of these ladies are giving you are a hard time. Without patronising them are they reading your question??????????

 

I doubt it. Probably too busy watching daytime TV and looking forward to some ironing or something. (JOKE GIRLS)You seem to be representing an opinion thats all. I do not particularly like fat women, it's a preference. However, if one caught my eye and had all the right credentials, a bit of flab would not be a problem.

 

I therefore am failing to see why some are giving you a hard time. Give me a young bird anyday. Infact anyone will do.

[Kev_UK]

Hi Ward-Minter

I was told I was digging a deep hole.. OMG, I think they'd lynch you LOL. Oh.. forget the shovel.. just hire a JCB


Hi Ladies.. Thanks.. you've posted some good answers & opinions.. after the initial bitchiness LOL

:P

[bling-bling]

Hi - well I am now 29 and hubby is 44 - we started out together 8 years ago -he is the one "saddled" with kids but as he only sees them on the odd occasion - this does not concern me too much as I don't have a maternal bone in my body!"!

Am starting to find a few differences now tho - he will quite happily go to the local where as I prefer a little something going on even if it is just a bit of background music whilst we chat - so there is hope....

[Kev_UK]

Hi bling-bling

I'm same age as your hubby, a bit too old for all the pubs & clubs scene.. and rowdy brawling youths, etc.
When I do have female company however I tend to go to the pubs where they have meals, a live band, or the country type pub with background music that you can hear but it isn't that loud you have to SHOUT to be heard. I'm sure if you two talk you'll find a compromise.

[unia]

-------Scarlett--------

I counldn't agree more. Im 18 and just married an older man (by ten years) not a substantial number but there's still a difference. Ive always loved older men... so YES as an answer to your question. Sorry however to say honey that your heading in the wrong direction, theyre probly not looking for an older man who aint willing to open themselves up a lil bit and give somthing other than cash in return. You seem like a very shallow person... from what ive read so far :P

[gemmabe]

I'm a younger woman (21) and recently had a relationship with a 50 year old man. Was a complete disaster - he thought he could control and mould me into the person he wanted me to be and tried to knock my confidence when he should have been building it. All he seemed to do was sleep and drink!Now we're finished I've already lost a stone through being more active, healthy and happy, and I'm more positive than I've been for a long time. I wouldn't describe my ex as a walking wallet, stable or mature!

Am sure there are exceptions to the rule - you never know unless you try!

[fullabulla]

no kev u sound vile thats y u aint gonna get no fresh new punny

[gifthampers]

Hello,

I do not know if I can help, but I am 59 and my wife is 39 and we have been married for 14 years, I am not wealthy? but we have two lovely girls aged 6 and 7 yrs we have had our ups and downs but overall a good relationship.........until now? well she is coming up to 40 and she has a great figure and a very good looking women, I suppose you can guess whats coming next? yes one or two younger men have been chatting her up and she has recently given me the cold shoulder although I am 59 I still have a good lean body and have been told I look about 45-50 however that does not help.

So what I am saying ,yes its great being with a younger woman but watch out when you start to age do not bank on a long term relationship, the other point to watch out for is now that I have started looking at other women my age they all look old and haggered.

Nigel

[Otrere]

Kev - most women open mouth before putting brain in gear. They just stew about things and then "nag" later.

What do you want a younger woman for anyway? No experience, immaturity, only after your money.

And yes I'm a girl!

Depends what you mean by older men and younger women. What kind of age gap are you talking about?

[Gingerpants]

Well I am in my mid 30's and frankly a guy of 44 is too old for me in my opinion.  I don't have a biological clock and I am quite young maturity wise for my age.  But it is a bit scary that you would see me as too old for you, a man of 44.  But most men want younger thinner women.  But you do run the risk of being dumped when a girl hits 30 and 9 out of 10 times her biological clock starts ticking, and oh and she realises she is with an old bloke who nags her about her weight increasing.

As to the guy called Nigel, saying women his age look old and haggard, what do you think that men your age look like as well.  I am sure you don't look that hot either!

Me, I find some younger men far more imaginative and far less sexist than men in their 30's and 40's.  For one thing they don't expect you to do their housework if you both have full time jobs.

[Kev_UK]

Thanks for the replies.
Gingerpants, Otrere, gifthampers & everyone I agree a lot of men let themselves go, a big fat beer gut and unshaven, etc.
I have to admit I don't sheve everyday when working, but no beer gut as I don't drink.. I drive. My stomach isn't as flat as it used to be and my hair is thining.. but that's just age. I don't like football, I like motor racing.
If I did meet someone younger I wouldn't dump them simply because they put on a few lbs, as long as the love and care was there then that's all that matters.
In reality, I think the guy would be more worried about the younger girl leaving him.. whatever age she is at the time.
I do like slim women like most men, but some women who are a bit overweight and very pretty.. Basically if the chemistry was there then size wouldn't matter, as long as I liked them. I find size 12 - 14 nice, though can go a bit each way. As with age.. it's only a number.. I've seen women in their 50's that would put some 20 yr old to shame.
The first few answers were not nice to say the least, and a few lies thrown in.. yes, i've seen these ppl on other threads. I think a lot of ppl have read things into my question that aren't there. I said I didn't find rolls of flab attractive.. some women don't find hairy backs attractive.. so what's the big deal.. I was only stating a preference. I do find some cuddly women very attractive, but it depends on proportion.. someone who is 5ft tall and size 22 doesn't do anything for me.. but someone who is 5ft 6 and size 16 may well do. If I was to meet someone older than me who I realy liked then so be it. So why do some young women prefer older guys?

[Gingerpants]

In answer to your last question, Kev, why do some younger women prefer older men, I guess maybe it's the Daddy complex?  I have never understood it myself except with the case of Colonel O'Neill off Stargate :).  I think some younger women want security maybe?

However most 'sexy' older men do tend to have a full head of hair, sorry.  That whole Sean Connery is sexy thing is a bit of a myth, for me and my friends anyway.

[Kev_UK]

Hi Gingerpants, Whose yer daddy LOL. My hair is thining and from the front doesn't look too bad LOL. Have you noticed lots of young men.. late teens to mid twenties have lost their hair or retreading badly, bald spots, etc. I know a lot would have hair but shave it all all off. I guess some girls (teens & early 20's) go with older men because (1) girls mature faster than lads (2) many lads at that age cheat on women or are very immature.

Hands up all those ladies that fancied the pants off George Michael back in the 80's ... I'd stand more chance with him LOL (if i was that way inclined, but im not)