I'm Confused About My Sexuality

[DaisyD63976]

I don't think anyone can help me figure this out, right now at least, but I'm really confused about it. I have a friend who feels the same so I was wondering if there was anything we could hear to make us feel less worries and confused. I'm doing this for him more than myself.

[Gavmacp]

I don't know anybody that hasn't questioned their sexuality at one time or another.

[Sqad]

Gavmacp.......well here is your first then.........I HAVEN'T

[DaisyD63976]

Ok. I'll just tell him it's normal ^^

[Gavmacp]

That is great!

[jno]

it would probably help to know what age and sex you are, but I wouldn't fret about it too much. You're attracted to whoever you're attracted to.

[Sqad]

No.......it is pretty normal in my experience.

[Gavmacp]

Ah! What is normal!!!!

[jeffa]

jno, the OP is a 14-year old girl.

[murraymints]

I'm not confused about your sexuality either sqad ! Xx :-)

[boxtops]

Daisy, from your other thread, you're only 14 - it's not unusual to be confused about all sorts of things at your age. In days gone by, it would be quite normal for a girl your age to have a crush on an older girl - to think they were great, try to be friends and imitate them - that's not a sexual, it's just growing up.

This friend you mention - is this the real friend, or the one in your head...?

[ummmm]

Don't be confused. You're attracted to who you're attracted to. That's not confusing....

[jno]

thanks, jeffa. My advice remains the same. You're not required to do anything about your sexuality when you're 14, so just relax and see how it turns out.

[DaisyD63976]

Oh don't worry he's a real one lol

[boxtops]

Just bide your time, then, both of you - you don't have to do anything. You're too young to have legal sex, you don't need to make any decisions yet. You'll know when the time comes. :-)

[jeffa]

"You're too young"

Not if the OP lives in Albania, Austria, Bulgaria, Bosnia and Herzegovina, Estonia, Germany, Hungary, Italy, Liechtenstein, Macedonia, Montenegro, Portugal, San Marino or Serbia.

[kvalidir]

Just be who you want to be and go with the flow, it doesn't matter if you are gay, straight, or bi sexual, so just be yourself and relax.

[DaisyD63976]

Ok thank you for your advise :D I'm sorry I wasn't as greatful before

[DaisyD63976]

Btw, I'm not thinking about having sex. Not put me off it

[jomifl]

Sex isn't obligatory anyway, for a lot of teens it is an element in social one-upmanship, like having the latest fashions, music, phone etc. It will sort itself out when your body has sorted itself out, it isn't a problem.

[2sp_]

Don't worry about it, it will all become more clear as you get older.

I think we all struggle with self-identity growing up, from sexuality to how we like our hair cut! All very normal!

Good luck.