how do i know if i love him?

[pompomfairy]

i really like this guy i know he says he loves me but i dont know if i love him back because he moved away and we dont see each other alot anymore, he still says he loves me but hes had sex with at least two other girl since hes moved away and i dunno if i still love him help!

[quibbmedusa]

AFTERnnoonnn fairy

well for a start if hes had sex with 2 other girls since he moved away, he cant love you that much, and i think you could do a lot better, i dont know the guy but if he really really loes you, it wouldnt matter where in the world you were and for how long apart, he wouldnt even dream of having sex withsomeone else..you can do better girl! good luck xx

[funkychicken]

If you have to think about it I don't think you do love him, if you did love him you'd just know. Do you always think about him and miss him? When you're with him does nothing else matter?

[pompomfairy]

yea i know he shouldnt have slept witht he two other girls but he was ****** when he did it and told me he regreted it after and he was sorry i do reli like him but he lives so far away now its not fair.

[pompomfairy]

i always think about him i always miss him when he goes :( . and when im with him the whole world stops and nothing else matters to me when i see him. im so pathetic

[ianess]

If you still loved him [as opposed to "really like"] you wouldn't have to be wondering about it.  It's pretty obvious that he dosn't hold you in the same esteem.  Let him go.......Mr Right will come along and you'll know that he's the one for you.  Best wishes.

[pompomfairy]

yea but i wish mr right would hurry up and get here coz i reli love this guy who i wanna b with but hes to far away now :(

[darkstar]

Seems like a nice guy. he probably a little lonely at times. He a lot of TLC.  O and Sex  

[pompomfairy]

well hes reli shy aswell but if hes shagged to other people and hes told me but hes slept with them will hes had loads to drink and cant remember it and i love him so much and i havent seen him in ages

[jno]

guys who get tanked and shag other women aren't a good investment at any time. Find someone who lives a bit closer and treats you with more respect, maybe even stays sober.

[dothawkes]

Is this person a fellow ABer by any chance who has perhaps suffered a rather embarassing contageous infection?

[dothawkes]

For JoAnn if she is in later,

no I don't do I? Not anyone!

[pompomfairy]

no he doesnt come on this website he has never had any infections

[JoAnnMul]

lol dot no you dont do you..!!

[JoAnnMul]

Sorry for pinching your thread there pompomfairy but seriously girl...If you love you are faithful no if's & no buts...& I hate to sound so negative but if you are with someone who leads you to believe otherwise you are going to have nothing but sadness & heartache..Why settle for Mr alright,when you could be missing out on Mr RIGHT..just make sure his 1st name isn't ALWAYS lol...Good luck & believe me theres no rush it just means your'll appreciate him more when you do find him..!!

[KittyGlitter]

I don't see how being drunk can excuse his behaviour. Otherwise, where do you draw the line? Imagine in courts of law "Sorry I shot my wife, but I was drunk and I didn't mean to do it!" "Oh, ok, you can walk free then!"  I'm sure it will give you a more stress free life if you can find a man who can keep it in his pants. Like others have said, you know in your heart if you love him and you don't need to question it.

[Otrere]

Hear! Hear! Kittyglitter!!!

Being drunk is not an excuse for him to go and do the deed with these other women. Drunk or not if he thought anything of you and genuinely loved you then he'd remain faithful.

Sorry but I think you should ditch him and find someone who really does love you for you and doesn't feel the need to get his leg over elsewhere.

You're worth far more than that. You don't want to hear all this I know because you "love" him or at least think you do. How about if you got drunk and went and sh*gged someone else? Would he be happy with that? Doubtful. Reckon you'd be dumped before you even knew what hit you.

[widowpurple]

If this guy truly loved you, why would he want to have sex with anyone else...Getting ****** is no excuse cos he should've learned from it the first time round.I know long distance relationships can work but I think, in this case, its probably not going to....why put your life on hold and go through all this turmoil for someone who has been unfaithful TWICE?? If he truly made you happy, you would not need to ask questions here.  So sorry. 

[pompomfairy]

thanx for all the advice everyone its helped alot i think i did love him but not anymore i when up yesterday to see him and i dumped him and he ddint know wot hit him it was brilliant and then i just walked off and left him standing there omg it felt so good to finally make him hurt the way he hurt me thank you all so much for the help

[widowpurple]

Well done you..*runs over and hugs you whilst giving you a swift pat on the back*...now don't you feel sooooo much better for getting rid of the dead weight???? Bless ya