Am I Depressed Or Something?

[chanmi24]

I'm not motivated to do anything...for some time i often feel like i am depressed... Even what i like i can't do...i started being not motivated long time ago but i could do what i like...now i can't do even that....i give up when i start doing something....
I feel like a *** (sorry for this word). I feel like i will not be able to fulfill my biggest dream and i start hidding in my own world in my mind to forget about reality. I feel like i was born in the wrong place at the wrong time. I've always felt that my age is not my real age (and my parents say i am wise and i have self-control, i can't understand why). I wanna start doing something useful for my dream fullfiling (i hope i said it correctly) but i give up. I am not that kind of person who gives up easily but i think i am changed.
Please help me...

[Tilly2]

For a start, how old are you, Chanmi?

[Baldric]

Duplicate
http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Society-and-Culture/Question1530325.html

[jourdain2]

Agree, Tilly, that is pertinent. Does sound like depression - but not as bad as it could be. Impatience for change that is not happening can trigger these feelings (I know).

[chanmi24]

Yes i posted the same thing in other category because i did not know where is the best to put it.

[chanmi24]

In march i will be 14

[Tilly2]

Well, now, I'm depressed. :-)

[chanmi24]

Why?

[tonyav]

It's called being a teenager, chanmi. Don't worry things will get better for you as you get a few years older.

I feel like i will not be able to fulfill my biggest dream


What is your biggest dream, chanmi ?.

[chanmi24]

그것을 빨아 ;)

[chanmi24]

Sorry, it is too personal. I can't tell you.

[Tilly2]

Teenage years are awful. Things do get better.

[tonyav]

And see !

[Buenchico]

Given that we've now established (on your other thread) that you're approaching the age of 14, I can assure you that the way you're feeling is perfectly NORMAL (or, at least, 'well within the range of normality'). That's based upon:
(a) "Been there, done that" (Yes, even though I'm 63 I really can still remember what it was like being a teenager!) ; and
(b) having taught many, many teenagers who were obviously experiencing very similar feelings.

So you're most definitely not alone!

Finding someone to talk to about the way you're feeling might help. Yes, I know that can be a lot harder than it sounds but there will be someone who can help you, whether that be a parent, a favourite teacher, your form tutor, your head of year, a youth club leader or even your doctor. I mention your doctor because, when I was a teenager, that's who I ended up talking to. He suggested taking vitamin B supplements and they seemed to work but, looking back at the experience now, I suspect that it was simply talking to someone which really 'did the trick' for me.

[Baldric]

Google translation of 21:33 is interesting

[jourdain2]

Look, chanmi, first thing you can do is start taking pride in what you can do NOW. Everything you do should be the best that you can achieve - then you can be satisfied. That will give you some pride in yourself. Once you feel worthwhile then you can begin to look at the world. Small steps first and start with yourself. These are the things you can change. Do not look at the forest of life, look at the odd tree around you. No-one can do more than their best...... and that is hard, but only what millions of other achieve.

Don't be offended ( know you're only young and you hammered out this question in a despair of the soul) but simple things like putting capital I instead of i and getting your writing correct are important for self-esteem. You will be OK, I'm sure. It's a difficult age. You are female, so am I, and I counsel you to watch out for a similar attack when you hit the menopause, unimaginable aeons from now. Take small steps and you will be fine and discover your life in good time. :)

[Tilly2]

that is very good advice, Jourdain. Good on you. xx

[jourdain2]

Hope she reads it, Tilly. x

[chanmi24]

Thank you Jourdain! And sorry if my writting is not correct but English is not my first language . I am Korean so...
Thank you again!

[Tilly2]

North or South?

[Mamyalynne]

It's a rite of passage the angst that comes with growing up - like finding your way through a maze.

You'll get there slowly,gently.

Take care and don't rush.x