Is Being A Top In A Bdsm Relationship Really About Empowerment?

rowanwitch | 09:30 Wed 29th Aug 2018 | Body & Soul

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Just thinking about this, a friend used to say she liked being dominant as she was able to work through a lot of bad stuff from her life She wouldn't switch roles because of early abuse but did say she enjoyed the responsibility for her partner. He used to say it was all about freedom, when you are completely disempowered in a safe space it is the nearest thing to total freedom. For me it was just a bit of a laugh between consenting adults. What do others think

Angina

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kvalidir

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I'm slightly weird in that outside of the bedroom I am very assertive and confident and definitely not submissive to anyone, however in the bedroom I like a man to be dominant and sexually assertive, but only in contrast to extreme gentleness otherwise it's just a violence fest and in no way sensual, there HAS to be for me a contrast. That being said they have to...

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Prudie

Funnily enough I'm aware of that too, no this was a regular poster but I'm darned if I can remember who. Have to go as I'm at work and if I got caught I'd get a darned good thrashing :))

jim360

Tell them that you enjoy it :)

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