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So, I am a single parent (widowed) I have one daughter who is almost nine. I do not drink or smoke and my social life is pretty non existent mainly due to lack of any childcare in the evenings. I have always put my daughter's needs before myself, I work part time so even though I do not have a lot of money I have a little money left each month which I put aside to save. My problem is my mum. Every year I manage to afford a little break for myself and my girl. I save up and we go away for a few days. I mentioned that I am going away to London for a few days for my 50th with a couple of friends. I am taking my daughter, we are going to watch a show etc. My mum thinks this is a bad idea and that I should be saving the money instead. It is not for two years and we are going to book everything early to get better prices for the hotel and trains. She actually said the friends that I am going with should be paying for me because they have got more money!!! She said I should just go out and have a cheap meal like normal people do....
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Whilst there is nothing wrong with second-hand or re- conditioned, if you save up to pay for something, it's a great feeling. Your mum couldn't get a hotel room or see a show second-hand, so you go and enjoy yourself. Oh, and next time she comments on you buying something new, tell her you have a sugar-daddy ;-))
14:41 Thu 18th Oct 2018
Something along the lines of...
I know you care for me, Mum. I know you want to be sure I don't run out of money. I really appreciate how much you show that you are concerned for me and your grand-daughter.
My life is not always easy, and sometimes, just once in a while, I want to build some good memories with my daughter, so that she can share them with you.
Please, let me build those memories without having them tainted by having a disagreement with you over this. It's something I'm going to do. I'm doing it for her, and I'm also doing it for me, because it is my 50th birthday and i want to have some positive memories.
I know you care for me, Mum. I know you want to be sure I don't run out of money. I really appreciate how much you show that you are concerned for me and your grand-daughter.
My life is not always easy, and sometimes, just once in a while, I want to build some good memories with my daughter, so that she can share them with you.
Please, let me build those memories without having them tainted by having a disagreement with you over this. It's something I'm going to do. I'm doing it for her, and I'm also doing it for me, because it is my 50th birthday and i want to have some positive memories.
Whilst there is nothing wrong with second-hand or re-conditioned, if you save up to pay for something, it's a great feeling.
Your mum couldn't get a hotel room or see a show second-hand, so you go and enjoy yourself.
Oh, and next time she comments on you buying something new, tell her you have a sugar-daddy ;-))
Your mum couldn't get a hotel room or see a show second-hand, so you go and enjoy yourself.
Oh, and next time she comments on you buying something new, tell her you have a sugar-daddy ;-))
'Being careful with money' was drilled into most of us who were born in the 50/60s.It is because our parents had so little. But your Mum is 'out of order' to say what she did. Just go ahead and have a good time.Everyone deserves 'something special' for a 'Big' birthday like your 50th. (especially someone who has been as 'careful' as you). Your Mum means well but she is being VERY unfair. I suspect she is jealous. I am very sure that what you are doing is wonderful for your child .