Need To Rant

[boona]

So, I am a single parent (widowed) I have one daughter who is almost nine. I do not drink or smoke and my social life is pretty non existent mainly due to lack of any childcare in the evenings. I have always put my daughter's needs before myself, I work part time so even though I do not have a lot of money I have a little money left each month which I put aside to save. My problem is my mum. Every year I manage to afford a little break for myself and my girl. I save up and we go away for a few days. I mentioned that I am going away to London for a few days for my 50th with a couple of friends. I am taking my daughter, we are going to watch a show etc. My mum thinks this is a bad idea and that I should be saving the money instead. It is not for two years and we are going to book everything early to get better prices for the hotel and trains. She actually said the friends that I am going with should be paying for me because they have got more money!!! She said I should just go out and have a cheap meal like normal people do....

[Sqad]

You are a single parent aged 50 years with a daughter aged 9 years old and you describe your "social life" as " pretty non existent"
So how did the daughter aged 9 appear?

[gness]

Baby at thirty nine I think, Sqad....it happens.... :-)

[Sqad]

gness 50-9=41.
Yes of course it happens but with a "non existent social life?

[pixie374]

Her 50th is 2 years time.

[Sqad]

pixie.....where does she say that her 50th is in 2 years time?

[gness]

Sqad.....Boona is forty eight now......since being widowed with a young child her social life has become difficult....well that's how I read it...

Babies do have an effect on social life but with a husband/partner it's easier to keep up with friends.....single/widowed it's not so easy...x

[gness]

In the OP, Sqad..x

[pixie374]

In the OP- that's how I read it anyway "it is not for 2 years"

[cashier]

Lack of social life since she was widowed and also lack of child care. Going to London for my 50th. It is not for 2 years.

[Sqad]

gness

"I am going away to London for a few days for my 50th"

[Sqad]

You mean she is going away for a few days in 2 years time? LOL

[pixie374]

"It is not for two years and we are going to book everything early to get better prices for the hotel"

[pixie374]

I hope you have a great time, boona. I wouldn't give your mum too many details, just reassure her you will be fine.

[Sqad]

LOL..LOL...I give in, you are both correct.

"sqad retreats with head bowed, he hates being wrong"

[pixie374]

I am sure you were right in your own way, sqad:-)

[rowanwitch]

It's not like you are getting into debt for an all inclusive holiday somewhere exotic. Mums worry,, you worry about your daughter she worries about you, they always think we are still children

[gness]

No he wasn't, Pixie! We were right...Sqad was wrong!.... ;-)

[pixie374]

Well, yes, gness. Naturally....:-).

[anneasquith]

Ignore your mother's advice ( in a nice way) encourage her penny pinching, hopefully you daughter will benefit from her estate when she dies .

[andres]

How old is your mother and does she live nearby?Just wondering why she doesn't look after her granddaughter and let you have some social life.. I think she might be jealous that you are going away with friends . Does she ever go away with you and your daughter?Excuse all the questions but just trying to get the picture.