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My mums been to the hospital today to discuss the inns and outs of starting her chemo next week.
Out of the blue she said that she wasn't going to have it and was just going to try and enjoy what time she has left without being 'poisoned' with chemicals that could potentially make her ill just for the sake of a few extra months.
We all just assumed that she would have given it a go at least, but we all respect her choice.
But what has surprised me is that they haven't given her (or me and my sisters) any indication of how long she may have left with us? Would have assumed that they would have SOME idea??
Out of the blue she said that she wasn't going to have it and was just going to try and enjoy what time she has left without being 'poisoned' with chemicals that could potentially make her ill just for the sake of a few extra months.
We all just assumed that she would have given it a go at least, but we all respect her choice.
But what has surprised me is that they haven't given her (or me and my sisters) any indication of how long she may have left with us? Would have assumed that they would have SOME idea??
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Very often they don't have an idea, cancers are unpredictable and guesswork isn't all that helpful.
What we did was to seize each day, not make long term plans and any breaks away were for a weekend or a few days at most whilst we could.
She will tell you when things get too hard.
Meanwhile good pain relief and as much joy as you can pack in is the best.
What we did was to seize each day, not make long term plans and any breaks away were for a weekend or a few days at most whilst we could.
She will tell you when things get too hard.
Meanwhile good pain relief and as much joy as you can pack in is the best.
Thank you all for quick replies, makes a bit more sense now. Don't think that she would ask how much time she has left because she's frightened.
Since the radio therapy she's had a bit of relief but has days where she's vomiting, got diarrhoea, dizzynes and headaches. Other days she has managed to get out of the house for a few hours and go for a meal or bit of shopping.
Its all a bit of a strain.
Since the radio therapy she's had a bit of relief but has days where she's vomiting, got diarrhoea, dizzynes and headaches. Other days she has managed to get out of the house for a few hours and go for a meal or bit of shopping.
Its all a bit of a strain.
Eddie...these "average survival times" are not for terminal cancer, but give a term e.g average 5 year survival............this not being the case here.
if you ask the Drs, they will give you a survival time based on their experience of such cases.......they are Drs not soothsayers.
I always felt that someone close to the patient should always know the "state of affairs" even though nobody had asked.
I think it is very brave and intelligent of your mother to assess the situation in her own mind and turn down treatment whatever it be....I would hope in similar circumstances,I would do the same.
I admire her.
if you ask the Drs, they will give you a survival time based on their experience of such cases.......they are Drs not soothsayers.
I always felt that someone close to the patient should always know the "state of affairs" even though nobody had asked.
I think it is very brave and intelligent of your mother to assess the situation in her own mind and turn down treatment whatever it be....I would hope in similar circumstances,I would do the same.
I admire her.
