Terminal Cancer

[Purist]

Hi there, I posted a while ago about my dad's stomach tumour and his remission from stage 3 bladder cancer, about a month ago he had a procedure to flush his bladder and after a Cat scan he has been told that the bladder cancer has in fact spread outside of his bladder and into his kidneys and now liver. The hospital have said there is nothing they can do, I am devastated and I am scared to ask how long he has got left, he was first diagnosed with bladder cancer in March 2018. His stomach tumour remains the same (it hasn't grown)

[bednobs]

firstly, your dad may well have already asked the question.

Actually, this should have been firstly: sorry he (and you) have had such bad news

[calmck]

How distressing for you. So sorry.
Did you go with him to the doctor? Has he been given a life expectancy prognosis? What does he say about what he was told? Maybe you and he could speak with the doctor and discuss his options re palliative care and then contac McMillan for advice

[Purist]

I wasn't there as he has just called me about it, I am visiting him later, he said he has been allocated a key worker and macmillan will be in touch. other than what I originally typed, I have no other info, at the time he was diagnosed with bladder cancer we were told the cancer was very aggressive, he had two rounds of chemo and was declared in remission, I can't believe its come back and spread :(

[Sqad]

From your description.........we are talking in terms of months....rather than years.

[hereIam]

I'm sorry Purist, so very, very sorry. Just let him know he's loved, that's all you can do now. God bless xx

[Mamyalynne]

Sorry to read this,ask as many questions of the Doctors as you need.

Am sure he'll get the best care - look after yourself too.

[Cloverjo]

Once it’s spread, I’m afraid it’s not great news.
Very sorry. Best wishes.

[naomi24]

Purist, a hard time for you. Just love him. Much love to you. x

[Peter Pedant]

firstly I am sorry your dad and you have had such bad news

if the question is: how does he have? None of the doctors will say because they really really dont know

Your dads stomach tumour has not grown and this is the case with some cancers - others are aggressive like the bladder

I agree Sqad months rather than years ( is the norm)
One of my relations had liver secondaries from ca colon and went on for 36 m. ( another 36 m after the secondaries had been diagnosed w/o treatment.)
so wait and see
and if he wants to do anthing - now is the time to do it
( ski parachute jump), mud wrestling a dwarf etc

( I went to Egypt when I was severly immunosuppressed, which looking back on it - seems a bit sporting)

[jakep]

Sorry to hear this, it’s so difficult to comprehend and deal with.
My dear friend lived about six months after secondary liver cancer was diagnosed.
All I can say is hug and talk x

[Purist]

Thank you for the lovely supportive comments, I was a bit of a mess yesterday, I have seen him and he is taking it well enough, he see's the consultant oncologist in just over a week, I am just going to focus on the now. ironically he said to the visiting nurse he was feeling very well. I think he will find out more then, there was some confusion about whether it had also travelled to his lungs. Im just glad he is feeling ok (as can be expected)

[Purist]

Just an update, we saw the consultant today who confirmed the cancer is in his liver and lungs, he also advised against chemo as it probably would do more harm than good. He also gave the prognosis of up to 12 months. Once again Thank you for the kind responses.

[naomi24]

Thinking of you, Purist. Much love. x

[Lie-in King]

My best wishes to you all x

[hereIam]

Thinking about you and your precious Dad xx

[Sqad]

Your feedback is most appreciated.

[Tilly2]

Make the next twelve months count. Best wishes.

[-SharonA-]

So sorry to hear about your Dad. Cherish every moment.