Sadness (Again)

[maggiebee]

Today I said goodbye to my brother. Those of you who read my last post will know a little of his passing. I went to the service to be there for his family and my son came with me. We always joked that he was my mum's favourite and she would have been heartbroken about what has happened to her family. However, we will all just have to move on and find our own peace. Thank you all for your support, it is very much appreciated.

[pixie374]

So sorry, Maggie xx I hope you are ok.

[nailit]

I dont have any words maggie,
Much love to you. x

[albaqwerty]

Saying farewell to a brother is hard. He is at peace and I hope you're ok xx

[pixie374]

Maggie, I will say this and hope it is helpful... if not, I will shut up xx I think part of grief is often some unnecessary guilt as well. Our own feelings of what we should have done differently or better.
Nobody knows, though, what might happen in the future. As far as I can see, your brother made the choices to live, and die, as suited him. And your mum will never be heartbroken about it, as she doesn't know. That is not meant to sound harsh, but just with the hope you can be easier on yourself, without the what-ifs xx

[Zacs-Master]

That must have been tough, maggie. My sincere condolences. X

[jourdain2]

Oh no! So very, very sorry Maggie. It has been a dreadful Winter so far, we have lost 3 friends and others like you are also sorrowing. I have one sister and I don't think I could cope with losing her.

You are right, however, the new life has to be accepted and hurts heal over. Much love is sent as you commence this process. x

[-SharonA-]

Sorry to hear & give yourself time to accept it's not your fault.

[Mamyalynne]

I hope your goodbyes also brought some good memories and may go a little way towards healing your bruised family. x

[brainiac]

Very sorry to hear this, maggie. Last year my brother died very suddenly while abroad, so I have some idea what you're going through. His funeral took me back to Scotland for the first time in over twenty years. Best wishes to you.

[marval]

A sad day for you Maggie, but at least you were able to say goodbye with your son.

I hope you find peace. xx

[anneasquith]

Maggie, I’m pleased your son went with you.

[rowanwitch]

Some people will make choices that do not sit comfortably with us.... Those affect our relationships at times. Love stays in the core, in our better memories when that love connects with acceptance we can understand.... Wishing you acceptance for you already have love.

[maggiebee]

Thank you all for your kind responses, it is very much appreciated.

[mallyh]

sending you an AB hug ,take care xx

[beso]

I once read a story of a native American concept of death.

We die three deaths. The first is when our body fails. The second is when nobody alive remembers us any more. The third is when nobody ever speaks of us again.

Know that your brother will still be alive while you continue to honour his memory.

[lady-janine]

Very sorry to read this Maggie. I hope the best times stay in your memory.

[Chipchopper]

So sorry to hear of your loss.
I can't think of any words but they say "time is a great healer" I've found that to be true.
God bless.

[tiggerblue10]

Sorry to hear this Maggie, condolences to you and your family xx