Sorry...its A Thread About My Mum Again

[nailit]

Sorry, but just trying to help my mum.
She was discharged from hospital yesterday into my sisters care.
She's been assigned carers again twice a day but she's deterioated so much in the last couple of weeks.
Had to go over to my sisters this afternoon to simply lift her in bed (now totally bed ridden) as she was in so much pain and couldnt even get a few inches up the bed.
She's admitted that she now needs around the clock care, either in a Dougie Mac or an oncology ward. But her biggest fear is dying alone.
Also had to get a district nurse out to her tonight who gave her 2 injections. One for sleep and one for pain relief.

Question is, if she were to be admitted to either DM or oncology, would she be allowed visitors? Or is it (like her recent stay in hospital) dependent upon ward managers?
Thanks.

[Mamyalynne]

If a DM operates as a Hospice they may well be geared up to allow visits for end of life patients but you would only know by asking really.

It's very difficult to cope at home sometimes.

[bednobs]

the hospice near me is allowing visitors, but i guess you'd have to ask them

[nailit]

//It's very difficult to cope at home sometimes//
As we've just found out Mamy (or more specifically, my sister has)
Didnt realise how downhill she has gone in 2 weeks...not eating etc

[Tilly2]

Read this, Nails. It will apply to the DM hospice in Longton.
Assuming you could get her in there.

[Tilly2]

https://www.dmhospice.org.uk/coronavirus/

[calmck]

Good that she is home. Cannot answer re visits in care but she needs proper pain relief. If she can be managed at home better for her but hard on you and you sister. If the district nurse is good she should contact the doctor for adequate pain relief to be given every so many hours and with emergency dose available should the need arise. Best wishes and good luck to you all

[nailit]

Thanks bednobs.

[calmck]

A glass of Sherry or whatever she likes might help the appetite. We had this prescribed to patients on oncology when I was nursing

[maggiebee]

So sorry to read this nailit. It must be a desperate situation for you and your sister, not to mention your mum's pain and fears. Think a few phone calls would be in order but feel your best bet (visitor wise) would be a hospice with more relaxed rules. Take care x

[nailit]

Thanks Tills, will have a look.
Irony is I drive past there everyday in works van and wonder...

[calmck]

Don't be sorry to ask for advice or just to vent. Most of us will be happy to offer support to you at this time

[nailit]

Sorry cant keep up with all replies but thank you all.
Appreciated.

[nailit]

Ive just speed read that link Tills, thank you.

[Baldric]

Wish you all the best Nailit.

[Bobbisox1]

Heartbreaking Nailt, such a terrible cruel disease, take care

[Tilly2]

Did Mum actually have her hip repaired, Nails?

[nailit]

Thank you
Cal
Maggie
Bobbie &
Baldric.
(hope I havnt missed anyone)

Tills, Yes, or at least 'patched' up.
Surgeon said that it would have broke sooner rather than later anyway. Her bones are absolutely riddled with cancer.

[nailit]

I wouldnt keep a dog in this state.
Mum has often said that a Dignitas should be operating in this country.
As painful as it is I agree.

[Bobbisox1]

Nailit I pray there's someone with your dear Mum when the time comes,to hold her hand on her final journey xx

[nailit]

Just wish that she would slip away...
crying writing/typing this
Its just so f king painful.