Is It Really For Better Or For Worse

[Teapots1]

Is this snobbery or just a case of not being able to accept the situation along with the problems of the coming weeks? Couple been married for 46 years, no real health problems during that time for either of them. Without going into to much detail, husband been living with cancer for a few months now, a very aggressive type. Cut a long story short getting up the stairs to go to bed is becoming almost impossible and painful the cancer is in the hips plus everywhere else. She objects to the bed being bought down into the living area, she actually said to me everywhere will look a mess, and what will people think when they come round. Must admit I was more than cob smacked. What do you think?

[Teapots1]

Calmck, The downstairs area is massive, sitting room / living room at front of house with open plan dining room to the back. So she would still have all the sitting room to herself without him being isolated, you could get 2 beds in the dining room, so plenty of space for carers to work with him around the bed area. Also the kitchen leading off the dining area is also very big, with downstairs toilet. All in all there is no reason for him to be isolated in a bedroom upstairs, plus the fact that she is no spring chicken to be up and down the stairs all day long with whatever his needs are. I believe the doctor is calling in tomorrow along with a female health care worker to put the options forward.