Counselling

[steve208]

Can anyone help please?

I have a first counselling session this friday and though I have had counselling before I feel really dauted about this. Can anyone help who has been through the same thing please. The counselling is for depression and am really hoping it can help as have been very low and stuck in a rut for a few months now.

[purplelily]

Hi Steve, I had some counselling sessions for my depression too. I think you'll find that they really help - I know they enabled me to put things into perspective and see that things weren't as bad as I imagined. I felt as though I was stuck in a rut too, and the counselling helped me to see that my problems weren't as huge as I thought, and that I could get through them. Just try to relax and let it all out - you'll feel a lot better when you come out of the session, I guarantee it! Well done on getting help for yourself. All the best, x.

[Ghostrider]

Steve,

Can only agree with PurpleLily, went through it a year ago and it helped a great deal, it really helps you focus on things and get perspective. Good luck with it.

[Lizziedrip]

Hi Steve, Agree with P & G, went to counselling myself, wasn't sure about it at first because I'd spent a lifetime running away from the things that bothered me and it seemed too scary to begin with. My counsellor re-assured me that it may take a few sessions to "find my voice" but I did and it helped me enormously to put things into perspective. I can't believe how long I'd allowed certain things to rule my life, and felt a huge sense of relief once I'd rid myself of a few old demons.

[Lizziedrip]

Oops pressed submit too soon........I wish you all the very best. LizzieD xxx

[jaq1964]

Hi Steve,

I too had councelling a few years ago.

I would describe it as 'having a boil'. I was in a lot of (emotionl) pain before I went, it hurt 'getting it lanced' (talking about it) but felt a heck of a lot better as it healed.

It won't be easy, but you will get there. You really need to get on with your counsellor to be able to 'open up'. If you don't feel you don't feel comfortable, try another. Don't give up. I didn't feel comfortable with my first counsellor, but the second became like a mum to me and really helped to turn my life around.

My thoughts and best wishes are with you.

[smudge]

Hi Steve - I too have suffered with depression in the past, due to bereavements & found that 'talking' was the best remedy for me.

Talking to a councellor helped me through my darkest days & allowed me to move on to happier times again.

Good luck & arms around you. -x-

[Cheekystar]

Just relax and try not to worry about it, your counsellor will talk you through the procedure, try and be open as possible and look to the future.

I know it must be difficult for you, and you've done really wel in booking the appointment.

Good luck!

[Dollie]

Hi Steve - I'm a professional counsellor and I agree with Jaq1964 - if you don't feel comfortable with your counsellor, then don't hesitate to change - don't let it put you off counselling. The right counsellor can help you turn your life around. I wish you all the best - counsellors often have very good results with clients who are depressed. Good Luck.

[steve208]

Hey there people well just to say thanks for all your advice etc.

Re: getting a different counsellor the one on tursday will be my fouth one in 3 years or so. At the start of uni saw a woman at the uni counselling service then i was off with glandular fever so didnt come back till after christmas. When i came back she had left but they gave me a young male counsellor who i got on very well with. But this was more just talking and didnt get me that far so was seeing doctor every month and he insisted i see the CPN (glorified counsellor??) at the surgery. So saw her from around december 2003 till april 2005.

The other thing is that here at home the letter from the nhs counselling service says they offer "brief" counselling of 4 to 8 sessions. While i think 8 might be enough i hope that its like say one a fortnight then onto one a month cos that would help. Thats what i have found i initially need a lot of help but once things start to help used to see counsellor at uni every three weeks.

I dunno as long as she can help me get going on the way to changing some things in my life thats what matters i suppose.

thanks again for listening to me.