Weekend alone

[jaredwillias]

I am 23, recently single and its the first weekend in a while that my mates arent going out. I am unsure what to do with myself !!!

I madde a list yesterday of things i could do like join the gym, will it be really busy over the weekend though??? I also want to update my cv and start looking for new jobs... If you get my drift, I am trying to take my mind off women and exes, so am trying to focus on something different.

I would really like to go out this weekend to try and meet women, but dont want to look like a billy no mates!!! Thing is asell, maybe i need some ME time before i go chasing women straight away?

Everyone else seems to do so much with their weekend, i just want some suggestions on what i could do.

I was thinking of starting swimming or maybe boxing, but boxing would be ull of meatheads judging you wouldnt it ??? (i am pretty slim and not much of a fighter)


Any suggestions would be appreciated

[TopCat1]

Hello there, you could go to the cinema, many people go there alone or you could get in a few beers and a DVD and put your feet up. You could visit family.

[kazzianne]

just admit ur jibjab - come on,don't be shy!!

[Fish the Mod]

This Saturday, find a nice pub to watch England V Jamaica ( even if you dont like football there should be lots of goals) Kick Off 2pm. You can't beat a pub for England games. After, grab a take-away and watch a DVD. On Sunday, go to a cafe with the papers for breakfast and if its warm in the afternoon over the park with a notepad to write note on the CV.

[jaredwillias]

yes kazziane u found me out !!!

i love football and would like to go watch the game in a pub, but i dont like sitting in a pub likle a billy no mates......

all my mates have got plans already for the weekend.....were going out NEXT weekend, but i need to keep myself occupied THIS weekend

[kazzianne]

You used to wind me up going on about your mates,but I have forgiven you now!!Why did you change your name? You can't get away with anything on here you know!

[jaredwillias]

i changed my name because i was getting so much abuse and sarcy comments for genuine questions, its horrible to think that 5 minutes after u split up, ur gf is out nobbing some other guy.........ITS HORRID.

Just need a way to keep myself occupied to help get over it, meeting women would be ideal but how can you do that on your own!!!

[kazzianne]

It must be awful - I haven't actually had that done to me,thank god,but I had a huge row with my b/f one evening and he left for the night,and even tho it was only 24 hrs .I honestly thought it was the end of the world.

If she really was seeing somebody that quickly do you think she is the ideal girl for you? You must have split up for very good reasons.There is always somebody perfect out there for you - you just haven't found her yet.I had totally abandoned ever finding "the one" after divorce,long line of useless t***ers,and then in the most unexpected situation I met my guy....the rest is history.He is my total soulmate.

[Gevs1966]

You sound extremely desperate! Are you one of those needy people that always has to be going out with someone?

Give yourself a break!

[jaredwillias]

you cheeky tw@t

it was my first real relationship at the age of 21 , so no i dont ALWAYS have to be in a relationship as I went to uni for 3 years without being in one!

i am just saying, she finds it easy to jump into bed with an ex so why shouldnt i see what i can find?? but its hard work going out on the pull by yourself.....

if i am needy what is she? she has gone backwards in getting back with an ex boyfrined whereas im taking time to assess and see whats on offer

[Champagne]

I have to agree with Gevs. You do sound desperate for a woman in your life.

You need to give yourself some breathing space. It�ll be hard at first. It took me 3 months to adjust to being single again.

[jaredwillias]

ok so answer me this, if i am despeate for a woman in my life........what is she???? she has gone back to an old ex who cheated on her (thats why they split up).......so, if shes with a fella a week after we have split, does that make her needy and desperate for a man aswell ???

[CT]

Stay in tonight and watch 'My Name is Earl'.

[jaredwillias]

CT - Your comment is the kind i could do without thank you very much

This is why i changed my name, because of sarcys like you

[~Wingnut~]

Hi jibjab (knew it was you all along lol)

You say above "trying to take your mind off woman and exes" but in the next breath "I would really like to go out this weekend and meet women"

You desperatly need some you time, quit thinking that you need women and trying to work out how you can meet one, until you are honest to yourself and stop acting desperate no woman is going to look at you.
Honestly the best thing you can do this weekend is be on your own, I'm not too sure if these friends of yours are doing you any favours to be honest, esp from what you have said in other threads.
Take a walk, do a bit of clothes/gadget shopping. Stop at the pub for a bit of lunch and one drink (don't want to waste the afternoon napping) Go for a walk/ play on playstation (work out how to use new gadget you bought in the morning) go for another pint, grab a take away on way home, flick through hundreds of channels till you find a film you've only seen half a dozen times and chill out with a couple of beers.

Pretty much the same as Fish says esp for the Sunday. I tell you I love my kids to bits but what I wouldn't give sometimes for a bit of me time and just do what the hell I wanted like go to a cafe sunday morning, have full english and read the papers. I can't do it now tho because I would miss my kids and hubby too much and feel guilty. Quit feeling sorry for yourself, this girl is nothing to do with you anymore, feel lucky you got away when you did, lifes too short please don't waste it like this!

Good luck and hope you don't think I was being nasty by what I put, just trying to tell you how it is!

[Champagne]

You're very defensive. Take a chill pill Jared. I know you're angry about it but you will get over her. I was just suggesting (as requested) that you take time out and don't go looking for a new woman just yet. You're sounding very bitter, desperate, hurt and angry, but there's no need for you to take it out on people on here.

[Batty Boy]

Why don't you just stay in and watch some Porn and get rid of that desperate frustratation!!!!!!!

[Dick Cheese]

I think you should stay in and think about why your friends have made plans that dont involve you! Oh to be the centre of attention eh?!? Why dont you go to a pet shop and buy a budgie!

[~Wingnut~]

I think your too raw at the moment to even consider a new relationship and to be honest I don't think you really want to just go out and find a woman as easily as she went back to her ex.
You come across to me as a man who wants more in a relationship than one night stands, you want to see that the relationship is going somewhere. Exactly the same as me, I wouldn't get into a relationship until I knew it was going somewhere and that I wasn't just a plaything.
Stop looking for what you don't really want and bedding a more or less stranger isn't going to make you feel any better about yourself whilst your so bitter about your ex and please please please don't do it just to get back at her! The only person who is going to get hurt is you, and your already in enough pain.

Take care

[kazzianne]

I just wanted to know why is this thread getting so sarcastic? Yes he has asked the same things over and over,I know,but some people take longer than others to get over things,and his question was very polite so I don't see some of the answers are called for.

[~Wingnut~]

I think as well Jared, don't look at this weekend on your own as a bad thing. You are already getting there by wanting to take up a new hobby, just make sure you follow it thru. Infact whats stopping you from doing a nightclass in something? You learn a new hobby and meet new people. Get your local college up online and see what courses they are running. I think you need to take yourself out of this situation and maybe not going out drinking with your mates is not such a bad thing at the moment.
You could always go away for the weekend. Find a cheap B&B on the coast, nobody knows you so what does it matter of you think they are thinking "billy no mates" as you put it? your never going to see them again.

Please think about the sensible suggestions on here as I think you really do need to do something before your too bitter and angry to change.

Take care