Cocky arrogant Men

[salisbury]

why is it always the cocky arrogant guys who attract the girls???

its happened to me twice now with past girlfiends and its a worryig trend..... i thought this girl (2 year relationship) was different as she always said the reason she loved me was because i WASNT like that, my dads a bit of a womaniser u see so my gf always told me i hope u dont turn out like him.


Anyway TWICE now this has happened, a cocky arrogant wnker starts sniffing around my girlfriend, i get suspicious and then KAPUT, we are finished and then a couple of weeks later she is kissing him.

Why do lads like that get everything they want and muscle in on peoples girlfrineds, if it was somebody muscling in on their girls im sure they wouldnt be happy !!!

Why do girls always say they like me for not being what girls all want......

COCKY ARROGANT FLIRTATIOUS N0B HEADS

[4getmenot]

Oh dear I think you should maybe be looking more at the girlfriends as well. I myself think arrogant men are the worst. When I go in a pub the loud blokes that are showing off to the mates are a big turn off. But honestly it takes two to tango and your ex�s are to blame too. So you shouldn�t be asking the question why do girls go for cocky, arrogant men more the question why do my girlfriends go for any other men but me and find a better one next time that will treat you with more respect. Chin up. :-)

[nat_84]

I dont go for cocky, aroogant men either. Big turn off. Although i do know a lot of girls that would. The guy being loud and arrogant - usually means they're probably quite well known and a bit of a 'jack-the-lad' type, resulting in their girlfriends also being at the centre of attention a lot of the time (obviously being what she wants!). These relationships never usually last anyway and no doubt he'll probably go out and cheat on her eventually.

[Champagne]

Maybe girls don�t go for cocky, arrogant men. Maybe its confident men with strong characters they like, as opposed to weak men with emotional baggage and insecurities.

[babyC]

jibjab...

[PinkFizz]

yep - jibjab for sure.You beat me to it Babyc.

[salisbury]

what???? how do u keep finding me out !!! ??

please keep the abuse to a minimum

[redcrx]

move on. Shes a lost cause! No abuse from me but please just get on with your life and dont waste any more time on her or worrying about what you or she did wrong. Come on, the suns shining and its gonna be a great weekend for bbqs and partys. Go to a few and enjoy yourself.

[4getmenot]

Oh dear obviously I haven�t woken up yet today. Didn�t realise it was you but it all fits now :-) No one has given you abuse we�ve all just told you to move on and still how many months later are you still thinking about them. Why do you post on here if you�ve made your mind up that you�re never gonna let them go.

[salisbury]

weve only been split up 2 months and also, i have let her go...........its me i am worried about......i want to sort out these issues i have and ask people for their opinios. I find it easier to ask on here than to ask people i know.

i sent all her belongings in the post yesterday and changed my phone number so I HAVE LET HER GO.....i just want to know really where i am going wrong.....

I always seem to get treated like dirt by women, and thats what gets me, its usually the women worrying about why the men are so mean or why the men are so stubborn.

I am an easy going laid back, quiet with people i dont know but these guys who are loud and bolshy seem toi think they can do whatever they want evemn though these girls have boyfriends.......i would never go near a girl with a bf purely out of respect, but it seems it really is a DOG EAT DOG WORLD

[WaldoMcFroog]

Some people work in the following way:

"All my relationships break up. The partners are all quite different. The common factor is me. Ergo, I am bad at relationships.'

What people who think like this don't realise is that you could apply 'the common factor is me' to anyone who has gone out with more than one person! It's almost egotistical to believe that you're special in this respect; that you've been marked out to suffer above all others.

Get over it. Seriously. Stop thinking you're unique in this respect. You really aren't. Do you imagine that all successful hetero relationships are between cocky arrogant men and a.n. other woman? Doesn't that just sound ridiculous when you put it that way?

It also sounds like you need to accept yourself for what you are. You're obviously not terribly confident. Fair enough; accept that about yourself. Don't think you have to pretend to be something you aren't to attract someone because *nothing* will screw a relationship faster than pretence. If they don't like you for who you are, sod 'em. You'd prefer they liked a fake?

Once you learn to like and respect yourself, I suspect you'll find it a lot easier to do the whole relationships thing.

[4getmenot]

There�s no easy answer or correct one for this. No-one can say why these girls have treated you like this. From what you�ve said in the past about her phoning you still I think she just craves attention and was probably just taken in by this bloke, some girls like that kind of excitement no matter who it hurts. No-one can say that it may be your fault. Twice doesn�t mean that there is anything wrong with you. As many of us have said before you don�t need a girlfriend to be whole and from the way you talk about it you need to work on yourself and be happy in yourself.

[noxlumos]

It's a truth that sometimes women have so much baggage of their own that they want a relationship which puts them centre spotlight so a bloke whose a real ****** is what they look for, because you can guarantee that he'll see other women, spend all their money, slap them around a bit and do other things that will be highly emotionally charged a fulfil their need to be the centre of attention. some women actually enjoy being treated appallingly and it says more about them than it does about you.They are the "star" again when to get his own way the bloke has to be sweet with them to "make up" in order to get his own way about something else. They thrive on this negativity even though it causes them great distress and is ultimately destructive.

Naturally, before everyone leaps on me for being a woman hater ( I am not), most women are not like this, but if you have one that is, you're best out of it mate. Move on, feel sorry for her and wait for someone balanced and nice to come along for you because when they do you'll have a great relationship.

[Goodsoulette]

I am sucker for cocky charmers who wink at me and call me princess. Cant help it, if they have the physique of a rugby player top marks, what I really want is the singer or bass player in a band.