really good pressie

[biscuitboy]

taking a young lady out at the weekend - just come out of a relationship so a bit rusty on 'courting' !!!

what would be a really good pressie to give to her??

[turboped]

WM don't you think hard core porn is a bit much for a first date? Second maybe, I would start with a rabbit or edible pants.

[enigma]

I agree with those who said no pressies on a first date. If you feel you must buy her something , then I would say keep it small - like as others have said , a small bunch of flowers or a single rose but nothing too ott. To be honest , I never felt comfortable with men who bought me gifts as it made me feel very uncomfortable.

Out of curiosity , are men still expected to pay for dates ? I was just interested in the comment on one post which said "simply just pay for the evening". Maybe it's just me but I never ever took a penny from any man I dated. I always matched them round for round and split everything down the middle. For two reasons :
1: Then we both knew exactly where we stood at the end of the night because he would be getting nothing from me (if you know what I mean) and he couldn't turn to me and say 'but i've paid for you all night'
2: I worked full time and was pulling in a decent wage , so why should I expect a man to pay for my night out ? I don't think that's fair on the poor guy. Fair enough if his date's unemployed or a bit hard up for cash but if she is doing okay , then why should the onus be upon the man to pay ? Maybe it's just me.

[Ms.Hijinx]

a small cuddly toy and name him together as an ice breaker

[WendyS]

As a female I'd suggest you don't go overboard on an present. on the first date. She might be overwhelmed or embarrassed and then feel under an obligation to you in case you're trying to buy favours. I'd be inclined to wait until you know her well enough to know her tastes, then perhaps you could buy her a CD of her preferred music, or perhaps the latest paperback by her favourite author. I certainly would be acutely embarrassed by being given a gift on a first date. Just be pleasant, kind and courteous and let the relationship unfold itself gently without any kind of "moral pressure" until you reach a stage when you can offer, and she can accept a small gift without her worrying about any kind of hidden agenda which might be behind it.