This is doing my head in!!!!

[Zammo]

Need advice....again! Was seeing a guy for about 7 months who can't seem to move on and leave his ex girlfriend, I think he's just not a risk taker and is just happy to plod along with the familiarity of his ex. They have a house together and he was always talking about buying her out, really don't think he's happy with his relationship. I've tried a number of times to finish things with him, to get closure but he always changes my mind but finally at the wkend he accepted it and now I'm gutted/love sick/heart broken. I've never had a relationship before - this is the closest thing - it's def the strongest I've ever felt about a bloke and it feels like a break-up...just hate that I'm never going to see him again. Please help!!

[spk]

ahh love- Ive been there. Heartbreak is never good and it takes along time. My advice is to definitely try and stay away from him, dont go back again, it sounds like you are a bit of a security blanket for him. It sounds like he is still very much all for his ex, and you cant change that. Its not your fault, its not anything you did, hes just not up for moving on and away from her. Take your time be kind to yourself and it will get easier. Haagen Dazs, and Bridget Jones type movies for a few days :O)

[Zammo]

Thanks Spk...you're always top at advice. I'm going to try and forget about him and you're right it is hard....argh!!

[spk]

I know its so difficult. And nothing makes it better unfortunately but you deserve 100% of someone not some crappy half measure. Im still single after a big heart break, but I would rather be on my own and available for a nice man when he finally comes along rather than wasting time with the wrong manI hope he hurries up though ! :O)

[spk]

Im sure you still look lovely with dark hair anyway- treat yourself to some new make up to embrace your new image ! :O)

[spk]

that wasnt for you Zammo sorry it went in the wrong thread but new make up is always good anyway !!

[Zammo]

Lol!! I had wondered...hee hee.