Hi shoemad - great name by the way. I had exactly the same problem, I am also married to a pilot who thought I was totally ridiculous. I am also a great fatalist who believes in life after death so my fear was totally illogical. I even resorted to diazipan to get me through it on occasion, the strange thing was that although it took away the blind panic I still had the underlying fear. In the end I did two things, I attended one of the courses suggested already and I also had a couple of hypnotherapy sessions. Now I can fly and feel fine about it, even managing to look out of the window. There really is no point in anyone telling you to get a grip, that it is the safest form of travel, that you have more chance of being killed on the road etc, etc, because if you're scared you're scared. Try to get some help with this, it is horrible to be this frightened but you can get over this fear with some help. Love and light Amara xx