Drugs

[raysparx1]

My head is spinning, A nephew of mine has started taking drugs,to hide from the fact he was abused by some piece of scum,he won't talk about it to anybody,my Dilema is this bloke is out of prison and walking free after about 1 year inside, my nephew is a prisoner, my Sister is really hurting, which hurts me, what do I do ? I feel very angry,I am on the verge of hurting this bloke really bad, do I do it, ? or hope something happens to him later ? or get someone else to do it ? ( that is not a problem) what would you do ? serious answers only please, I can't get it out of my head, thanks,

[raysparx1]

Hi naz & samuel,

Naz that is so tempting believe me,

samuel, I don't believe in all this PC correctness either, I was bought up to look after myself and my family,and it has got me into a few scrapes in the past, but as I said before the thing that scares me a bit is, that I don't panic it's like buying a bottle of milk, If I do go to my Sisters I know I will hurt him, so for the Moment I am staying put, I will put a few feelers out to see who is about and take it from there, a few people owe me a favour so It might be pay back time, thanks for your advice, Ray

[electricblue]

What goes around comes around,,,100%,trust me????

[raysparx1]

Hope you are right electric, can I make the wheel spin faster ?

He will suffer one way or another,of that I am in no doubt !!!

[laurence2]

Hello Ray, very sorry to hear your about your nephew, don't go looking for revenge, the old bill will be waiting for it to happen, i appreciate that you feel like a dog waiting to be let of its least, but its not the answer, i know it will make you feel 100 times better, but its your nephew who needs the support, try to get him help or to even confront what happened, he needs to open up, the drug use is not the answer for him as we all know, just keep persevering and hopefully he will see the light, as for the SCUMBAG that done it, if i could ray, i,ll gladly assist, what goes around comes around, and you can be rest assured that OTHERS are after him, he will get what he deserves i,m certain of that.

Hope all works out well mate, try not to let it beat you up inside ray, your a better bloke than that, say a big hello to your nephew, we all hope he gets back to some sort of normal life, tell him where all willing him on

All the best mate

[raysparx1]

Laurence, that is really nice of you,thanks a lot, I am knotted up inside,but calm,if that makes sense, you will know how that feels from the boxing, where your sort of scared but thinking right come on lets do it, know what I mean ? blimey sounded like frank Bruno then, I wish it was in London cos I could get it sorted, these scum are looked after better than the victim, I am sitting thinking, I am not rushing there cos if I do,I know I will hurt him, I want him to have a permanent reminder,

Thanks again laurence, you take care, your a good bloke, Ray

[Captain Swab]

I would cut his kit off no problem, but thats just me.

[Hellion]

Hi Ray I'm so sorry some scumbag has put your family in this horrid situation. Retribution might seem a good idea today but your family need you right where you are at the moment. I'm a great believer in 'Karma' the scumbags always get their just deserts in the end (an absolute 'delight' in this area crashed her car on the way back from a drug deal a few weeks ago and killed the dealer and seriously incapacitated 2 more - who says there is no god!).

If you need advice on what to do for your nephew contact these people they may not be in your area but they will give good and true advice on what you should do to help him. They are not 'do gooders' they've all been there. They can give advice on support groups for your family too

Big Hug to you Ray - stay cool XX

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[helliebobs]

Hi ray, I'm so sorry to hear of your problem and I can't really offer any words of advice other than what has already been said. I just hope these responses show you how loved and respected you are on here - you are always kind and helpful to other ABers' problems, so I hope you take some comfort from these answers, even if they don't solve the issue.
Take care, hellie. xxxx

[whiffey]

Ray, just beat him up. You know you want to.

Loads of creep points to be made on here when you've done it and then you can get back to the cunnilingus jokes.

[raysparx1]

hi pickle, Hellion & helli, thanks to all of you, pickle i am not going to rush into anything,you are like nox allways the voice of reason & sense , I listen to what you say every time.
Take care,Ray

Hellion, helli,

Thank you for your kindness,really nice of you, look after yourselves, Ray xx

whiffey, I ain't after creep points, I just want to protect my family, I have done some things in my past that I am not proud of, I am maybe over protective of my family,is that a stregth or weakness ? I know I can belt this scum, but what I do has got to sit right with my wife,sister and children it is not just me, if it was I would have done something serious by now, take care ,Ray

[whiffey]

Ray, I appreciate what you are saying, but why choose to bleed in public ? Just go do what you have to do, protect your family, as we all do, but why tell the whole internet about it ?

I'll take care, but thanks for the reminder.

[raysparx1]

just want opinions whiffey, as we all do at times, i didn't ask for the sympathy bit,just tryng to sort the best way forward, my mind is fuzzy and i need to clear it before any major decisions are made, I am not making out I am some tough he -man, i am able to look after myself,but I don't want to make it worse for my little sis,I just want to protect her.

[whiffey]

Ray, if my nephew, or any of my family, had a drug problem, the last thing I would do is broadcast it to the world on AB.

Your mind was not so fuzzy that within a mere 5 minutes you could publish an obscene sexual 'joke' on a family site. Grow up.

[raysparx1]

my sense of humour is still with me whiffey, the fuzzy bit is the problem, nobody knows who he is do they? if they did I would not have asked, I am not in a mood to argue with you,so please don't be abusive ok.

[crete]

you see this is where i also have a problem with this question ot statement if i had an issue similar to this the last place i would be talking about it is on a question and answer site with strangers no matter how long you have been talking to them.

[whiffey]

Me abusive !! Oh ha ha !

Just wind up for the sexual stuff raymondo, comes a bit later doesn't it, nudge nudge.

Don't patronise me. You got a fuzzy bit ? Diddums. Sort it out without bleeding all over the world. It's your family, man, not a public exhibit.

[raysparx1]

an outside opinion crete is often better than from somebody close,strangers can give an opinion with an open mind not a biased one,that is why i asked on here,

[crete]

if i had this problem to night god forbid the last thing i would be doing is giving people stars for there answers

[crete]

why would you talk about sexual abuse on an open forum sorry i just dont understand if you want an unbiased view talk to a professional person