Low esteem

[*ALFIE*]

What are the symptoms of somone having a low esteem and what how does one overcome this ? any Ab'ers have this ?

[angel-cake]

Someone with low self esteem would constantly put themselves down, would not ever accept a compliment (or even believe the complement was genuine) and would just consider themselves generally worthless.

This can happen from growing-up and being constantly belittled (by parents and/or friends) and from poor self image.

I used to have quite low self esteem because I was bullied at school but this faded as I got a bit older, and started to realise that I was worth something. Now I am much more confident about myself. Making new friends when I started work was a big help.

One way to overcome it is to distance yourself from the people who put you down. Even if this means being on your own for a while, you will learn about your good points and this will come across to new people that you meet.

[what???]

What's kind of strange is that i have really low self-esteem but my parents have always given me loads of compliments and tried to make me a confident person but im jus not. I used to be when i was a child but im not anymore. So i don't really understand how it happened this way.

[filthiestfis]

Ive had low esteem virtually all my life and thats why im single and have rarely taken risks in life :(

[-Zorro-]

or they would bullsh!t to make up for their ;lack of esteem

[alijangra]

Im still not the most confident person in the world but I feel that setting myself goals and reaching them really makes me feel better about myself and more confident.
When I first met my boyfriend I was poor, a student, no job, couldnt drive, was overweight and unhealthy. With motivation and encouragement from him I completed my course and got a distinction , got a job I enjoyed (at the time!!), passed my driving test, got fit and healthy. So really I think achieving what you want(realistically) in life can do wonders for your self esteem.