have any of you ever had an affair?

[~posy~]

? (i know i'm a nosey cow!!)

[flipflop104]

Well it depends on what you consider cheating. Behind my last gfs back I "cheated" twice but I only consider it as once (I'm a girl btw).

The first time I was on holiday (holiday had been booked before I started seeing her) and I slept with someone whilst I was drunk - never saw the person again and would never want to. I don't consider this cheating (although many, would and do, and I understand why).

The second time, I met my (now) current gf and we flirted and met up in secret for a few months (nothing physical ever happened despite her persistance lol), I then ended it with my now ex (current gf at the time) and then started a physical relationship with my now gf who I've been with for nearly 8 years. I consider this cheating.

I consider an emotional attraction or bond as a worse "cheating" than a drunken one night stand, because the emotions involved are a lot deeper and (usually) premeditated and are more devious, deceitful and calculating than a drunken one night. And if you start something physical with someone who you are emotionally bonded with then that's the worst type of cheating.

I (hope I) would never cheat on my current gf but as has been said, you never know what's round the corner - I certainly don't feel like I would ever cheat on her. At this moment in time, she is everythig I want from a gf so my "cheating" on my ex paid off in this instance but I certainly don't condone it and am ashamed to a certain degree how we got together (I always cringe when ppl ask).

[RATTER15]

No one else would have me!! and just so happy with my current partner!!

[fms]

ys that any way posy dya fancy one ;~) hehe

[gerkin]

Does, getting it on with a partners friend at a wild drunken party count ?

[Goodsoulette]

Hands off, fms. Posy~Jo is mine, all mine xx

[noxlumos]

I was serially unfaithful to my first wife with lots of women, my second wife thinks men are not naturally mongamous and gave me a carte blanche to see anyone I liked as long as it did not develope into a relationship. For some reason casual sex doesn't appeal to me any more , so I'm not sure she's not just really good a reverse psychology.

[China Doll]

Absolutely agree with Flipflop about emotional cheating, think that was what I was trying to say but said it badly. Good answer Flip.

[trakcab]

sounds like theres a lot of Bill Cintons out there

[fee-is-me]

Oh yes.

But big, serious stuff not just for sex or that sort of 'light' thing.

[annavc]

never cheated on a partner but have been the "other woman". It was just sex for him, a lot more for me stupid bint that I was - oh well - live and learn hey!

[Lonnie]

Mentally, yes. Physically, no, and I wouldn't.

[whiffey]

lol @ fee - but she bothers me uncannily.

[Demongirlie]

I've been the other woman, but not intentionally, he lied to me at the beginning of our relationship. But there was just something about him, maybe it was pheromones, or we met each other in a past life. And crazy as this sounds, i was drawn to him. was very unhealthy and guilt ridden as I was I ended it.

[fee-is-me]

Why 'lol', whiffey...?

And in what way 'bothers'...?

[i-am-russian]

Yes 3 times all three were married women and with young children.I am NOT proud of it.

[T-lo]

yup may be once. it wasn't easy trying to live a double life.
it is extremely nerve pumping. you lose a lot of sleep. you think of the other person while you're with the other one. overall i think it is some kind of a sick game that i played and that i know i am the loser at the end.

[tictactoe]

Well I didn't do the cheating - he did.

He was the adulterer, we had an affair for about 3� years, finished, then rekindled for a while before I realised it was going nowhere. (Not that I didn't already know he was never going to leave his wife and family). The bond between us was very strong, a powerful chemistry that I had never felt before, or ever had since...

[steviep165]

naughty n00dles!!!
you do surprise me. just goes to show you never can tell!! lol

[Kozmic Blues]

I have seen my friends family been torn apart from an affair.
Very sad :(

[Roughquest]

I am currently seeing a married man, its great, i dont have the hassle of having to see him all the time, and its him that does all the running to be with me, its lovely, we met in a hotel 4 months ago and i am in love with him. Hes is everything i look for in a guy and i live for today, i may get hurt who knows, but life is a risk afterall and i dont regret this at all.