is it over?

[duno]

how do you no when a relationships come to the end?
after 5years i feel nothing for my partner. no hate but no passion. its horrible but im just not bothered any more.
can any one enlighten me...

[wonder years]

if you feel like that it has to be over you need to move on and look forward to life again instead of living in an environment like what you are it is not healthy it wont be easy at first but after a while you will relize it was for the best good luck x

[duno]

thanks .

[Orangesauce1]

There is no relationship if there is no passion! Love or Hate its a two edged sword but at the end of the day passion must exist.... This is personal to me and no two people are the same but its advice nevertheless x

[wonder years]

if i could hear you say thanks would you be saying it with like yer thanks i relize it now ,or thanks is that all you can say i was looking for a way of saving it deep down ?

[duno]

thanks i realise it now... i knew. just needed someone else to tell me.
and wow yea! no passion? what is there?

[wonder years]

do me a fav duno go on minixe thread and give her a bit of advice shes in a bit of a state over things hope things go well for you good nite x

[mccfluff]

um no passion that did it for me

[Goodsoulette]

There is a thing called the seven year itch. My 5 year relationship recently came to an end and that has lost any passion in it, he would argue and I had no will power to argue back cause I didnt care anymore. However, there was a 4 and a half yer history of violence and abuse to go with that too.
I dont think love happens naturally forever, i think you have to work at it and rekindle that spark. Maybe try a few extra special dates (if you ahvent already) and see if you can see it again. If you dont, at least you had a few nice meals, and if you do it will be like starting the relationship all over a gain.

[missmay]

i was at the other end of it yesterday, my partner told me he felt nothing toward me after 4 and a half years,it hurt me to hear him say it,but its better than living a lie

[Pisceangirl]

Oh dear...'Mismay' that's sad (happened 2 me B4)...I hope you feel better in time and find a new soulmate (there r many & not in a spiritual way- just there r so many people u r suited 2 in this world!). 'duno'- U've probably figured this out by now due 2 some clever previous advice but I always think that life's 2 short 2 waste havin a mediocre time...althouh I agree 'Goodsoulette' that maybe it just needs a bit of spicing up! Try dress up, dirty talk, role play (if the sex is boring!) or even just talk to him. If there's love there then I think u should respect your partner 4 still being there 4 u. Maybe he feels the same (similar happened 2 me & was very easy break up), though it may just be complacency...try to remember what it was you loved about eachother. If all else fails I guess it just doesn't work anymore & u have to jump the burning ship (so to speak) & get on with your life. Do it diplomatically in this case- you'll have a friend 4 life in him & it'll limit the collateral damage. Good luck however you decide :)