Alcoholics Anonymous

[warpig1]

Does anyone know of anyone who has attended AA and found it to be beneficial, or know of alternative help centres?

Thanks.

[China Doll]

Yes. AA helped someone I know and this person has never looked back. The important thing was that they wanted help tho.

AA however is not for everyone. Not everyone likes the plan and some people believe that alcoholics do not have to never drink again in their life. I don't subscribe to this but I only have knowledge of one person and what they went through and AA was the only thing that could have worked for them. But it is worth doing your research.

Actually, I think if Nox is around he might be a good person to talk to as he may know of an alternatives to AA as I seem to remember us cross posting about AA in the past.... I think it was Nox anyway....

Anyway.... I don't know who (not fishing) you're asking for but I wish that person all the luck in the world. It's a tough thing to come back from.

[larkin]

Reiterate above by Chjna . The main thing is tha t the person wants help . Acquiantance of mine used them and she has managed for a year and a bit without a drink. Don't think it is easy or a magic cure though.
Good luck to whoever it concerns

[larkin]

China even !! Sorry old gal !!

[warpig1]

Thanks China, it is for me actually and while i know I have a massive problem I am absolutely scared witless but if I don't do something very soon, then I think i will become seriously ill or die. You would think with these prospects that would be enough to make me stop!

[nat_84]

I beleive my dad went quite a few times.... at the time it helped, but its just about sticking at it...which is the hard part!

[raysparx1]

Hello warpig,

You have done the hard part by admitting you have a problem,please try your hardest,one day at a time,once an alcoholic, forever an alcoholic you are allways one drink away from disaster, I had a friend that died aged 42 from drink, please try to come off of it, good luck, Ray

[BagPussAA]

At least you have made the first, most important step.. You have admitted to yourself that you have got a problem.. Have a good long chat with your GP too.. He may be able to recommend some help/treatment too.

I have tried a group similar to AA for another problem and I could not get on with it as I felt uncomfortable talking about my problems within a group environment. I now have 1-2-1 councelling which I find much better for me.

The only way that you will know if it is for you is to go to a meeting and see.

Good Luck Warpig...

[ummmm]

God bless you warpig xxxxxxxx

[4getmenot]

The good thing is you have finally admitted you have a problem as I think a few weeks back was it you that said how can you stop yourself drinking at home and then you said you just do it because you like it

[larkin]

Well done on the admission warpig.
I am sure that there are plenty out there who could do with coming with you ( me included sometimes !!). Good luck.xx

[arburgirl]

I wish you all the luck in the world warpig, If you have the choice to die or not I know which I'd choose, especially after having cancer myself, that takes away your choices really. not trying to make you feel bad , but maybe try to put your problem in comparison with that for example, I always think that any little thing here and there that people say will all add up to starting you off on the right road to help yourself. I should imagine you will get a lot of support from fellow aa members, so give it a try.

[China Doll]

Hey Warpig,

(I honestly wasn't fishing.)

Well yes, in some way you would think that with those prospects it would but this is why it's such an evil addiction Warpig and a serious illness. I'm not saying that you are in no way to blame, but I am saying don't be too hard on yourself. If you get yourself in to a negative frame of mind that's not going to help you either.

But as I'm sure you're aware that the illness starts in your head, there's always a reason why these things can take a hold on people, it's a crutch and a support that is used to block out or numb something that you don't want to face. That's most likely why the prospect of stopping frightens you so much, if you stop the drinking you have to face what you're running from.

At the end of the day though, how long can you run for before you collapse with exhaustion? You have the chance to start a new life and you don't want whatever has happened in the past to ruin this. The past shapes you but it doesn't have to break you too. Hard lesson to learn but a worthwile one.

It's scary as he11, you've got some dark days coming your way I'm not going to lie to you... but for yourself do it, you deserve to be happy and to live. And there's support here for you and I'm sure in your own everyday life.

Chin up, walk tall, stay strong and as they say, take it a day at a time. You can do this.

[warpig1]

Thank you everyone for your words of support, am sitting here with tears in my eyes.

[arburgirl]

bless you, so am I now, take care.

[raysparx1]

long as you ain't got a drink in your hand, take it easy, my hero Jimmy Greaves got through it so can you !!!

[warpig1]

Thanks Ray and no I don't. Have decided to take it one day at a time and am hopeful that tomorrow will be the first day of the rest of my life. Sadly my hero George Best was not as fortunate as Jimmy, went to his grave several times and it broke my heart but still not enough to shock any sense into me. But I know what I am and what I have become, and I don't even recognise myself any more, emotionally, physically or morally and I know that this is all down to my addiction and the guilt for the pain I have caused my family and friends is unbearable but again still not enough to shock me. But I do still have my inner strenght and will draw on this.

So just one day at a time :-o)

[raysparx1]

warpig, you come across as very bright, please,please,please, give it your best shot,one day at the time is the only way, My poor old dad had a drink problem,he would drink to mask problems,but it doesn't take the problem away it masks it,but he could not see that, I really do wish you the strength to come out the other end with your head held high, it will be tough,you know that anyway, but it is at your lowest point you will need to be at your strongest, you,your family,your friends deserve to have you back,they love you, they want you,they need you. you have given good advice to people on here,people are now giving you advice please take it. I hope nox comes on because he has been there with the drink,he will help you, I really wish you strength, and good health, Ray

[warpig1]

Crying again!!! Thanks Ray, all of what you say is true

[crete]

i have two friend at the moment who attend A A , one has been alcohol free for 4 years and one has been alcohol free for 3 months .warpig what a very brave person you are . very best wishes to you .