All the relationship questions.

[##Wardy##]

Can anybody tells me what the exact problem is when their partners sleep around.

I am playing devils advocate here and have never cheated (except when I was a teenager) and to my knowledge never been cheated on.

Is it really that bad. If it was only sex, there are no nasty diseases, it is not a pattern of behaviour.

Why the big deal. What are the emotions of those who have been cheated? I do not buy the "trust" thing that is so often batted about. You either trust somebody or you don't. The word is meaningless.

Why the problem?????

[sophie_1003]

I'm not saying men completely dont relate emotion to sex, I just think men are more likely to have sex just for the sake of it rather than actually being attracted to the person.

[ummmm]

As in men can sh@g a swamp donkey and women couldn't

[sair5412]

I was cheated on by my fiance when our son was 10 months old. It left me devestated and physically ill (I actually vomitted and my legs collapsed when he admitted it). For me, I could not get the graphic images out of my head and the idea that his w**** had been in me to create our son and then he'd put it in someone else! I had a bizarre feeling after I found out... It was almost like I felt that my womb and insides were going to drop straight out of me. It sounds very weird i know but a friend of my mum's described the same feeling after her husband cheated. I immediately felt that I didn't know the person standing in front of me anymore and I couldn't bear to look at him or hear his voice. It affected me very badly and I don't trust men any more at all. When I say trust, I mean, I don't believe them when they say they wouldn't cheat, kiss someone else, have sex/make love to someone else, lie about where they are, who they're with, how many pints they've had, the list goes on. I also don't trust friends or family any more, which breaks my heart, but I've learned that if I trust no-one, then no-one can hurt me.

[Amiira]

aww Sair, if I could give you a hug I would.