I've been with my current girlfriend for 8 & 1/2 years..........

[Mr Tall]

and our parents have never met despite living about a 10 minute walk apart. One of my pals who has been dating his current girlfriend for just under a year had to go out for a formal meal with both sets of parents the other night. I said that's a bit soon to which he replied so when are you and your misuses parents gonna meet up. This got me thinking is it weird that mine and my g/f's parents haven't meet up, baring in mind were not engaged and have no intention to do so in the near future.

[makemesmile]

Getting married in a church when you don't normally attend is a completely different subject.

[Champagne]

I think that's fine. If you don't see it as a priority that your parents don't meet each other then it's hardly an issue. You've coped 8.5 years without there being an issue around it so carry on as you're doing. Your relationship is about you and your partner. Nobody else.

[joshieboyo]

As with everything makesmesmile, there is no guarantee, but I knew in my heart that I would spend the rest of my life with my wife and I didn�t marry her as a gesture of love or anything like that as she knew how much I loved her, I married her because I wanted to, I wanted to be able to call her my wife, I felt proud to have called her my wife.

[makemesmile]

That's very nice for you, joshieboyo

[joshieboyo]

Wedding don�t have to be about showing how much money you have. It�s not an expense thing. And people who say they don�t feel the need to get married, I just really don�t understand! I it really annoys me.

[makemesmile]

That's a shame, joshieboyo.

[joshieboyo]

Please don�t patronise me. I find it rude.

[makemesmile]

It's not meant as rude : )

[Champagne]

I'm with Mr Tall on my views of marriage. I've never had kids because I haven't found the right man who'd make a great father to them. And I've never been engaged or married because I haven't found the father of my kids.

It wouldn't bother me to have children out of wedlock. If my dream man insisted on making a pact in the eyes of God then I would seriously consider it. But it would never be a party affair with family and friends because I don't believe it has anything to do with anybody else.

But I believe that if I make a vow to a partner to love and cherish and worship them forever then I don't need to sign a piece of paper in a church to prove this.

I see so many marriages either breaking up or one or both partners having affairs that it actually reinforces my beliefs. When you consider that you can now walk into Tesco and pick up divorce papers it really doesn't give you much faith in the process of marriage, does it?

[makemesmile]

I'm with you Champagne - it's nobody's business but your own.

[buzybee]

If you are both happy in your relationship and you both love each other then you have nothing to worry about! Dont be worring about in-laws if they want to be involved im sure they would have suggested meeting by now, besides sometimes in-laws are the worst thing about your relationship, believe me!

count yourself lucky! :)

[jg96]

Never met our sons girlfriends parents they have been going out together for over a year we see our sons ex girlfriends parents they split up amicably four years ago on a regular basis get on great even been on holiday with them. It bothers my wife mainly because we have only met sons girlfriend a few times she is lovely its just a geography thing really but is ex who is getting married soon was always around.We are invited to her wedding all sounds a bit weird really.I think I should try to arrange a meeting to keep things sweet

[chitchat]

If you dont believe in marriage why do your refer to your girlfriend as the "Missus"?

[curiosity]

Marriage is a combination of two elements according to the Oxford English dictionary, and that is what me & my "husband" i.e my partner who I have co-habited with in a stable relationship for some time (Oxford English) are. We have been together for 19 years have three great kids and a New Years eve party full of divorced singles who we once bought wedding gifts for all hoping for a pull. Sorry Mr Tall, that was for joshieboyo, to you I say this isn't unusual unless there's been an event or something that brings them together. Congratulations you are normal.