I've been with my current girlfriend for 8 & 1/2 years..........

[Mr Tall]

and our parents have never met despite living about a 10 minute walk apart. One of my pals who has been dating his current girlfriend for just under a year had to go out for a formal meal with both sets of parents the other night. I said that's a bit soon to which he replied so when are you and your misuses parents gonna meet up. This got me thinking is it weird that mine and my g/f's parents haven't meet up, baring in mind were not engaged and have no intention to do so in the near future.

[redcrx]

ok, so you dont plan to get engaged but after 8.5 years do you see your relationship as steady and serious?
Is there any reason why theyve not met? are you worried they may gang up on you and make you get wed?

[Mr Tall]

Just don't see the need to get married, am not really that religious. We have been living together for 5 years and have a mortgage together and plan to start a family in 2 or 3 years. No doubt are parents will meet at the hospital.

[sunflower71]

I have been with my partner for 16 years and our parents have never met.
Were not married (through choice)
The parents exchange xmas cards every year.
Its not that we dont want them to met but were not really into that formal stuff.
I wouldnt think its weird just one of those things really.

[sunflower71]

Oh I just remembered, his parents have met my Dad once when we moved house and my dad was doing some work and they popped round.

[Athley]

My parents and my husbands met for the first time at our wedding 6 years after we initially met each other. They have had the occasional dinner once or twice since then but nothing more. They do get on but have different lives and different friends. Not a problem. :o)

[redcrx]

lol, well if your parents arent concerned and dont think youre ashamed of them then its not a problem really..

[makemesmile]

It might seem strange to some, but if it's not worrying you and your girlfriend, and the out-laws don't mind, then I wouldn't bother too much about it. No doubt when you do have kids they'll maybe more involved then. As a fave song of mine says "There's only one way of life and that's your own".

[joshieboyo]

I don't understand what this world is coming to

[makemesmile]

joshieboyo - I don't understand where you're coming from

[joshieboyo]

It seems that the importance of marriage has gone now. Its a sad thing

[makemesmile]

Not really - badger baiting has gone too, I don't see anyone crying over that

[Mr Tall]

Not ashamed in the slightest. although my mum can come out with some off key stuff but that would just make me laugh.

[joshieboyo]

Makesmesmile, I beleive it is a sad thing and it disheartens me to see that people don't feel the need to get married.

[Mr Tall]

Marriage is not important to me, I tell my missus everyday how I feel about her. We've discussed it but would rather own our own home and have kids 1st. I'm not saying never but its unlikely.

[joshieboyo]

It�s the privilege though isn�t it? I feel privileged at being able to say �My Wife�

[makemesmile]

That's very nice for you, but not everyone feels the same.

[Mr Tall]

and thats your choice and it works for you.

[joshieboyo]

I know and I feel the world is a sadder place because of that. There is nothign that can beat the feeling of a stable, married family home.

[sunflower71]

I can 100% see where you are coming from joshieboyo and I get really annoyed when you have people having big church weddings yet dont belive in the church - I just dont get it!
My situation suits me and if I would never consider having a child out of wedlock.
It is a shame that marraige is taken so flippent today.

[makemesmile]

But marriage is no guarantee - you don't get married and stroll hand in hand into the sunset - you can be just as happy living together and sharing your life.