a love lost

[legend758duo]

Someone once said to me
"If you love someone I don't think you can get over them, there is always a part of you that misses them or wonders what life would have been like if you were still together. "
Do you think this is true?
Or do you think its easy to forget and easy to move on.

[Sasha13]

I've been in love and lost them. I still wonder what life would be like now if I was with them. The difference is that I used to wish I was still with them, now I think I had a lucky escape. Still think about it though, and it most definitely wasn't easy to move on.

[rom]

i was thinking about this earlier. (probably all the valentines stuff!) i was thinking about my ex and how if we had kept in touch then we may have got back together but after splitting up we just lost touch.
i think its easy to move on, but sometimes i do wonder "what if"
oh god, tomorrow night i am gonna cook myself a nice meal, buy myself roses and champagne and turn my music up loud and dance, by myself!!

[Champagne]

It's not easy to forget, but you can eventually move on. I think it helps if you allow yourself to fall in love again!

[cliffsgirl]

you do move on, though you never forget your first love, sometimes u do wonder how your life would have been if such and such happened. its not regret, if you're happy now, you have fond memories to keep, but it shouldnt be painful or upsetting uless its recent,
i remember my first love when we were 16, we were happy and carefree and it was puppy love, i remeber him and smile at the memory.

[rom]

thats difficult sometimes though i think
well it depends on how the last one ended.
arrrrgh

[legend758duo]

poor rom.
you ok?
dont worry im sure youll find mr/mrs right again lol

[chicklin]

I think if someone was really special to you - even when you go your separate ways they still have a place in your heart. Maybe this is because of the memories and experiences you shared, I dont quite know.
Time can be a great healer and even some of those (not all) who you parted with on not-so-good terms can sometimes be viewed with a kind of fondness a few years down the line.
'What if's' dont do much good, but I suppose its human nature to ask the question anyway.
So after all that I'd say yes its probably true.

[raysparx1]

Hello legend,

I do wonder what it would have been like if I had stayed with the first girl I really loved, but it wasn't to be, so you do move on, there will allways be a place for her in my heart she was lovely and we are still in touch, but I could not be happier, I have a lovely wife and two great sons, but I will never forget my first love, I don't think anybody does, it goes very deep the first time you are hurt, and "The first cut really is the deepest" But the love I have for my wife is far deeper.

[legend758duo]

lucky man ray.
im not talking bout first love.
this was something said to me in the last few years.
and im a bit old now for first loves lol

[4getmenot]

True love never dies, thats all I have to say

[rom]

i'm fine legend, and thank you for asking
i was just reminising (can't spell that!) earlier and thought about lost loves !!!

but then you can't live your life thinking "what if" can you? so its onwards and upwards!! :-)

[legend758duo]

if you dont look back ocassionally,then i dont think you can move forward either ray.
though i may be speaking complete ******** here.
lol

[raysparx1]

legend, you never know whats round the corner, so keep on your toes matey, lol, take care.

[legend758duo]

you never know whosround the corner either ray.
lol.
im ready for her.
bring it on lol

[Miss Inquiry]

Coming out with all the cliches - It's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all... time is a great healer.
Your brian kind of morphs the reality of past relationships when you look back, I believe if a relationship was right it wouldn't have ended in the first place. As long as you don't dwell on the past and (as Champagne says) allow yourself to love again, you can happily move on.

[legend758duo]

Or is it better top have lost than loved?
Great highs.
But greater lows have been experienced by many in love

[Blyss]

You will always think of your lost love , maybe not good thoughts either lol.
I do wonder what my life would be like if I was still with a certain person ,, but there is no point in living n a dreamworld ..you just pick yourself up and move forward ,, plus you can always day dream about them

[legend758duo]

or have nightmares lol.
nah all this cliche b0ll0xs is exactly that.
good riddance to bad rubbish.

oops is that not a cliche too?
lol

[sunflower71]

well legend my 'childhood sweetheart' who i have not seen now for some 17 years pops up every now and again in my dreams, (not erotic dreams just dreams!)

But i cannot see us being together now my life took a different turn to his but i often wonder if he thinks of me!

[legend758duo]

im sure he does .