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[Roughquest]

I am feeling a bit insecure, could someone help me as to how to ask a guy I like for a date again, I have posted a previous question on this one but now we have been in touch again I really would like to see him again, but to be honest am very scared of rejection, I cant quite make out if he likes me enough to want to meet again or not....I have asked if he is ok and he has been talking to me but not mentioned another date/meal - what to do...

[Sasha13]

OK - you're talking to the expert on this topic here (?!) :-0

I need more details! When did you last see him? When did you last contact him? When did he last contact you? What sort of things has he been saying when you've been speaking to eah other/texting etc?

[samuel23]

Hi RQ ~ have you got a mutual friend that could drop a subtle hint? He may be wondering if he should ask you out again, in case he is seen as too eager.
Apart from that all I can suggest is bite the bullet and go for it. At last you'd know one way other the other. Good luck RQ.

[Roughquest]

Last date we had was last week, Wednesday eve, he says he likes me very much, he is single but has a daughter who does not live with him, he seems a bit shy himself and nervous, but we had a date planned for Tuesday eve gone, Tuesday afternoon he text me to say he could not make it as probs with daughters grandma falling ill and he had to have his daughter, to which i replied 'ok, hope all is ok' - didnt hear anything else from him until today - I sent him a text asking how he was and he said he still had to have his daughter, he had to change shifts etc and he asked how my week had been, but no hint at another date nor that he would like to see me again.

[Sasha13]

Can I suggest that you let him make the next move for a date? If he cancels one date then fails to arrange another, he really isn't interested, despite anything he might say to the contrary. If he's interested, he'll ask you out again, or at least you'll get a text next week asking how you are.

[Sasha13]

leg end - NO! Learn from the Master (or rather Mistress ;-). Boys may think they want you to make the first move, but they soon lose interest if you do.

[Sasha13]

The fact that you're legend758 means there are 757 legends before you so you can't be that good!

[Roughquest]

Legend - Thanks - but not sure how to word it casually.

Sasha - I was told by a couple of friends to let him ask me again if he is really interested, but I know someone that knows him and they say he is also very insecure and when we were out together he kept saying he could not believe someone like me could like someone like him....now, what if he is waiting for me to ask, before I did mention dinner and he said yes of course, how about tuesday? Then he cancelled, but most guys would just make a short excuse and not go into a lengthy text like he did in detail as to why he could not make it. I am soooo in a quandry.

Samuel - You are correct on the mutual friend bit, but I havent asked the mutual friend yet to drop a hint to him lol SCARY!

[Sasha13]

OK, in that case, may be worth one last chance. Drop him a casual text asking him if he fancies a bite to eat next weekend - plenty of time for him to sort out his family issues. Don't worry about being rejected, it's happened to the best of us and better you know now than in a few weeks time when you've expended energy thinking/worrying about it.

[Sasha13]

In terms of wording, don't get too hung up on that - something along the lines of 'If you're not busy next Saturday, how'd you fancy coming out for something to eat?' Or similar.

[Sasha13]

No legend, it's the number of blokes I've ruined this year so far :-)

[Sasha13]

No, not went through - what do you think i'm a $lut or something??

[Roughquest]

I have sent him the text Legend/Sasha - so I now sit with glass of wine in hand and await the rejection reply - be it oh so subtle, I think I do know deep down what he wants, as he is too nice a guy to be blunt. Oh well cant blame a girl for trying, Im lovely really. :-( Bridget Jones eat yer heart out girl...

[Sasha13]

And Roughie - it's not too tame. What you have to presume is that he's not going to answer - so send a text that won't leave you feeling stupid if he doesn't. I don't say this because I don't think he will reply, but if he doesn't it may make you feel bad for a bit and that may tempt you to text again and that my friend is a recipe for disaster.

[Sasha13]

If he does say no it's his loss - don't dwell on it and be thankful you found out now. Let us know what he says...

Good luck xx