want to break free

[heathersweat]

at 52 sick fed of trying to pay the bills, cant afford anything not even a holiday, how many hours to i have to work to have some sort of lifestyle, so given up now, i want to get out the rut and change my way of life, i am single with no commitments, has anyone one done it and how did they get on, did they come back into the system

[pastafreak]

heathersweat has not posted since last nite yet all day she has been spoken about as if she is 'still in the room'...she has been compared to a tax inspector,traffic warden, called a rude old hag and told to leave the country; it has also been implied that she drinks too much when she only said she likes a drink. Do any of the ABers KNOW her? does she really derserve to be treated that way??? I have some sympathy with her...at the end of a long shift,working her butt off, knowing that every penny she makes goes to necessities and that at her stage in life she doesn't have a lot of hope of progessing further career-wise.....i'm not surprised she is feeling p****d off. I know everyone tried hard to make imaginative suggestions but put yourself in her shoes...is it really practical to tell a 52 year old to become an aerobis instructor. i suspect heather is looking for something to to give her life meaning while at the same time helping her to cope with lifes mundane day to day slog.

[cazzz1975]

manners dont cost anything, If you ask a question and get a reply, generally being rude to the person who has taken time to search for weblinks, or spent time giving options like miss scarlett is disgusting.

pasta I dont know whether you are aware but there are a lot of people on here who live in very difficult circumstances, we all seem to manage to plod on and take what life throws at us, we have a laugh and we try to help each other.

this place is a great resource, however being rude to advice givers is bound to cause offence, I think heather is probably in a better position than most in the fact that she has no ties and if she puts her mind to it (she claims to be intelligent) she could come up with a plan herself.

[legend758duo]

Im not bothered at least pippa said summit nice about me.As fot heather i think shes probably on the plane to tenerife already.lmao

[joko]

lots of people have bad days and are miserable - most don't take it out on others who are trying to help though.

like i said no-one is obliged to help her - they did because they wanted to help - her rudeness was uncalled for and was the only reason she has been treated this way.

perhaps she was expecting miracles, i don't know but if so then she needs to get back into the real world that she claims to live in.

and by the way, many 52 year olds are very fit - why couldn't she become an instructor? or do you think all 52 years olds are old, fat and unfit?

perhaps if, instead of moaning, she had actually given some idea of her skills and what she actually was aiming for, people may not have had to have been so random in their replies.

[alijangra]

Well said pastafreak.

[Trinny]

I dont understand why this question is at the top of the page and still receiving comments. Ok, Heather may of been a bit rude. But thats not the first time someone has been rude on here is it now.

Leave the woman alone!

[shanx]

blame this ***** goverment,gypsies just broke the gates of the local school, on the playing field and the kids cant play left ****** nappies, tyres clothes, we have to pick up the bill, seems we have got all the ***** oher countries have thrown out

[pastafreak]

I agree trinny-yes, heather was rude but I think MORE rudeness was directed AT her than the other way around. we don't really know how she was feeling so none of us have the right to be so critical and judgemental. No,I don't assume most 52yr olds are ''old ,fat and unfit'...I am a bit older and have always been viewed as younger than i am---but to become an aerobics instructer requires not just fitness but an interest and passion for the activity.And cazz-we all have our burdens...whether financial,emotional or otherwise.I would like to know whether heather is feeling any better in herself tonight?

[Trinny]

hi pastafreak. I feel a few ganged up on here. Not the first time either on this site.

I think Heather was asking a genuine question, and yes I think there were some helpful replies, cutting back on your outgoings, probably the most helpful. Although others were posted as being helpful, but probably unreaslistic.

I think what got their backs up, was her abrupt replies, but she was being honest, I guess. So easy on here, to go along with what people suggest, and just say "thankyou".

Maybe she was asking too much, and if she doesnt know inside what she wants, then a site full of strangers is not going to know either. But I hope she is ok too.

[legend758duo]

Well i was one of the first to answer her.I didnt find her abrupt just a bit vague.Not something i connect to age.There are a few vauge young ones on here lol.

[Trinny]

Hi Legend, didnt realise you live in tenerife

[legend758duo]

i thot you read my rant at the weekend too trinny.nah ive been here over a year.

[Trinny]

yes I read your post Legend. Was it a rant? We all have them. Hope you are feeling OK now. Whats the weather like in tenerife now then?

[TechGirl]

Legend, you were so convincing that I felt like moving to Tenerife myself

:-)

[Trinny]

Techgirl, hi again, so am confused. Is Legend in tenerife or not. Am I thick?

[legend758duo]

im in tenerife .its 12.48 its 22 degrees in my apartment and was in the 90s today.any info u require im your man lol.los cristianos in the south.15 minutes from the airport .tenerife reine sofia ( south)

[Trinny]

lucky old you Legend.

Off to bed now. Its warm here too :)

nighty night xx

[TechGirl]

Sounds divine Legend!

Hi again Trinny, you ok?

[legend758duo]

divine???wasnt he a transvestite drag queen singer????

[TechGirl]

I'm afraid I'm lacking knowledge in the 'singing transvestite' area. Please, do enlighten me :-)