Well thanks everyone for your views but going back to my Q posted the other day and titled 'Tearing yourself away'.. I'm not really ever going to listen!
This is my life and I will be damned if I am going to live it by other peoples mistakes! I would like to make some of my own and grow and learn from them! I am not after an affairs and I am too damn good to be someone's mistress!
I am having fun.. and no matter how YOU all dress it up... it's just a bit of fun... Maybe him and his wife will break up and then me and him might hit it off.. Maybe they will be together for the next 50yrs and have a happy life together... Maybe they will split up and I won't want him! No-one knows what is round the corner and sometimes it's better that we don't! I intend to live my life one day at a time... and today..... we had lunch! :o)
too true ruby. I can say I have fancied and seen blokes that are taken, so I'm no angel but I can give advice because I have learnt from my mistakes, which we all have to do. xx
4get - All we can do is live our lives best we know how, and as long as we had fun along the way then does it really matter? (Ok, I don't mean murdering people or stuff like that) but you know what I mean...
I know married men are bad news! I'm no fool! But I have never had a full blown affair with a married man... or a man in a relationship...! I might do it one day... I might not.. who knows... I might meet a nice guy in Italy next week and forget all about this guy! Who's to say? But everytime I move on to the next part of my life, I take a little bit of wisdom from the last part... it's the only way to learn!
Women all over the world know that married men are bad news but then why are there women out there still doing it? And no it's not because they are tramps or sl*ts! It's because they haven't learnt yet! They are finding out on their own and I'll bet you now... they all think 'But this guy is different'! And he probably isn't... men don't leave often... but sometimes they do!
Mr K - Never has a truer word been spoken! (Well not in this thread anyway! Lol) Thanks hun... ;o)
Sometimes things are meant to be.... hell everything happens for a reason.... whether we are meant to be together, whether it makes him love his wife more or whether I just learn a valuable lesson..... everything happens for a reason!
No Whiffey and that is where everyone is misinterpretting what I am saying! I am not saying I am sitting here thinking 'I think an affair would give me a better outlook on life'... I don't want to be someone's mistress! But it happens and you can never say never! I bet someone who commited a crime of passion would never have said they would murder someone they loved! People do things and they never realise how deep they are in until it's too late! I'm not saying I am in deep or anything like that... I am bearly paddling.. but I can't even tell you what I will be doing in an hour, let alone in months to come with a married man!
Like I said before.. everyone thinks there situation is different! Everyone's a judge, everyone's the jury, everyone's the defendant!
He never moans about his wife... he hardly talks about her... she gets mentioned now and then but I think the reason is because he knows I like him and he doesn't want to rub it in my face!
I cant agree with that staement some things should never be done. Thats why we have laws, but it fits for this one. But as for him keeping his wife quiet so's not to upset you, thats where it all starts. If I were his wife and knew I was being kept quiet I'd be fuming.
Ruby, why don�t you ask him if he would leave his wife for you? Although you might want to know, you might not want to hear it. I am sure he might consider that it is better to be unfaithful than to be faithful without wanting to be.
Its funny he never mentions his wife though, you might have noticed I talk about mine all the time. I wouldn�t want to encourage anything untoward or unwelcome. But as you see it, any man is fair game even if he is someone else�s.