New on here so only just getting to know the names but is sexiruskiee a joker? If not shame on you all. So I'll jump in the deep end!! Painful sex is not normal and not funny either. If you are new to sex this is usually due to not being properly aroused, in a hurry and anxious that it will all go OK. Your partner could be the problem if he isn't a sensitive lover!!! Perhaps he's new at it too? Take your time, relax,KY and and if it persists see your doc as you have a medical condition which means your muscles tense too much to allow penetration. This is solveable. And sex doesn't have to mean penetration either. Get a GOOD book and have a good sex life.