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Anyone ever been with a 'controlling' partner ?
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If so did you overcome the problem, if so how? Is counselling the only option?
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.well, have just driven home from my new fellas house, this has happened twice now, re the texting messages thingy, the other weekend he went off in a moody at me for texting friends late at night, which agreed was rude of me, meanwhile he insists on telling me about every text message he gets, and whom its from (especially a girl he knows), I dont need or want to be told everytime, and dont care, but tonight my phone was on silent so when i got a text it buzzed in my back jeans pocket, he went off on one again accusing me of hiding something as my phone was on silent. I showed him the text as it was from a woman friend of mine, but I could not win, he is obviously insecure, his last wife had an affair. He doesnt trust anyone. Least of all me. I cant win here, so I just left and got in my car and come home. I hate men ! Why are they such *****??
hi rq yes he is VERY insecure and he owes you an apology...........sorry to be the bearer of bad news but this will become worse before it gets better.why should you bear the brunt of his insecurity because his ex had an affair?the next accusations will be about you talking to someone/looking in the wrong direction if there is another man there.my ex was exactly like that and believe me it took many years to get my self confidence back because they wear you down with their accusations and inuendoes.i served in the armed forces and i always thought i could endure most things but the mental and obsessive behaviour by my ex was the worst thing i have ever come across.please dont go down the same road as i did.if this is a new relationship i would get out nowall the best.
roughie i thot you were well sorted with him?
jealousy is a big problem and i imagine as you got on great a few weeks ago that he was trying to make a go of it.try talking.afterall he was best thing a week or so ago.
if you talk and cant resolve things then time to move on.if you care about him give him the chance to sort things with you
jealousy is a big problem and i imagine as you got on great a few weeks ago that he was trying to make a go of it.try talking.afterall he was best thing a week or so ago.
if you talk and cant resolve things then time to move on.if you care about him give him the chance to sort things with you
I dont think he is a greeneyed monster. I think he is (because of you receiving texts) previously, now putting the shoe on the other foot, and seeing how you react when he gets texts.
He probably is insecure, if his ex had an affair. (same situation with my ex) They do tend to test you to the point where you dont know where you are.
My advice Roughquest, is for both of you to switch your mobiles off when you are together
He probably is insecure, if his ex had an affair. (same situation with my ex) They do tend to test you to the point where you dont know where you are.
My advice Roughquest, is for both of you to switch your mobiles off when you are together