help!

[nannon]

Me and my boyf still not sorted things out....don't think that we will. (which means my bidy and soul are severly damaged right now...)
Am in work barely holding it together - keep crying.
Please post things to cheer me up/keep me entertained!
Anything!!

[confused79]

Yeah i have read your post now about it.

Can i just say i have slapped my boyfriend too before but that was when i found he had slept with is ex.... but thats another story and ill say i did more than slap him.. not that im saying i was right to do that, i was in a rage and went mad.

On another note though i have slaped him before when he has been nasty or insulted me and it was a split reaction and i didnt mean to and regretted it instantly.

If you had/have something special why would he throw it away, if it was just a split second thing and a reaction to smoething i woudl of thought he would forgive you. Maybe he just need space and time.

How long have you not seen each other for now?

[fine,thanks]

dont communicate with him for a few days both of you need to have a chat, but give it some time.

[johnlambert]

Here's why I love cats

[nannon]

There is no excuse i can think of as to why i hit him - I should never have done it but he just kept shouting, hit me then silly little girl, hit me then stupid bitch and i just saw red.
well this all happened on Saturday - i sent flowers yesterday and he should be receiveing my letter today. Then, as hard as it will be, i'm going to wait for him to contact me.
But if he texts me and says again that it is over i dont know whether to text him back or still just leave it?? If i dont text him back he may think i'm fine with it - if i do and say "OK etc etc" Then he may think i think I'm fine. If i say "no no please dont leave me etc" I will look like a desperate fool. If i dont reply at all then will he think i am rude?? I just dont know.

Thanks for those vids - they put a smile on my face!

[monkeyeyes]

So he hit you and called you names and is now making you feel bad for retaliating ?

Sounds a real charmer.........

Kick him to the kerb...........

[leelapops]

Awww, johnlambert-that made even me think cats are cute, and not just scary!
Does anyone know what that piece of music is?
x

[4getmenot]

Hit me then stupid bitch?? Jeez is this how he normally talks to you. May be you that hit him but I�d be long gone if anyone spoke to me like that. If he texts you again and says its over then leave it, yes he may think you�re fine with it but no matter what you say you cant force him to get back with you.

[4getmenot]

he didnt hit her monkeyeyes

[fine,thanks]

if he contacts and says the relationship is over, accept it, keep your dignity.

[monkeyeyes]

Apologies..............I was confused by the lack of punctuation.

So he called you names, nastily, and goaded you into hitting him...........

......the rest as per my earlier post.....................

[leelapops]

nannon, you never said he provoked you! I am sorry, but if he called you that and asked to be hit, then you were doing as asked! As the picture unfolds sweetie, it becomes apparent that he is far from angelic in this. Don't let him turn it around on you nannon, because you WERE provoked, and as monkeyeyes says, he isn't looking good in all of this. What you did wasn't right, and you've already said that, so you know, but don't do any more running. He needs to apologise too. Arguments have TWO sides, not one. And if he wants to be petty about it, then he is manipulative and conniving, and you would be better without.

That said, I hate for people to judge relationships when they have no involvement in them (what a hypocrite I am!) I think the only people who truly know a r/ship are those in it.

[4getmenot]

theres got to be more to it than just that. Have you been having these problems alot lately?

[nannon]

no he only slapped my arm after i hit him. He never has spoken to me like that before - i think it was a build up of lots of stuff.
It did feel like he was goading me - not that that is an excuse but i just snapped.

Think i will have to acceot after he reads my letter - there's nothing else i can say then. He knows how i feel. I can't apologise anymore

[nannon]

we have been bickering a bit - because of how i'm feeling in myself, him travelling a lot to see me, (circumstance mean i cant go up there much, but he knows i would if i could) because of him being stressed about selling his house, both of us being stressed about it taking so long, me worrying(and looking forward to) moving to London to be with him and wanting it all now.
We've never doubted we love each other but there has been a few arguements on the phone...i wouldnt even call them arguments though really but maybe he did.
So i'm guessing it may have been a bit of a build up of all that because usually he is such a placid laid back guy - would never speak tp be badly.

[nannon]

god i can't type today...'to me badly' that was meant to say!!!

Monkeyeyes - excuse my lack of punctuation - right now its not my top priority!

[confused79]

He kept saying hit me then, well thats different not that its right to hit him, but we all have limits and sometimes we get pushed over those limits, i bet it wasn't even a hard slap???

I would of slapped my boyfriend speaking to me like that too.

[confused79]

And its also done in shock i bet you was shocked him talking like that as you say he didn't normally, like you woudlnt normally hit him, so see the pattern you bith normally wouldn;t do that.

[johnlambert]

confused79 you slapped your <N> partner for something trivial like sleeping with his ex!!!!

This is serious ffs

[nannon]

well i didnt think it was but he said i'd broke his tooth! But i couldn't have - otherwise my hand would have been sore for starters. I know it wasn't that hard but i was so shocked he was speaking to me that way and he just kept saying it - 10 minutes of it before i finally reacted!

[johnlambert]

I doubt very much whether a slap would result in a broken tooth nannon, a punch would do it, not a girly slap, unles his tooth was already loose!!