Funerals: Burial or Cremation?

[VillageVicar]

Which do you prefer? And if you prefer cremation, may I ask, please, what would you like done with your cremains? (ashes).

[bigmamma]

I would prefer to be buried .
xx

[VillageVicar]

I tend to have many more cremations than funerals these days. But in the area where I live, there appears to be some signs of a change in trends.

Thank you Mamma!

Fr Bill

[laurence2]

I'm immortal Vicar.

But if in the event that i do die, i'll prefer cremation and my wife could decide what to do with my ashes.

[natterley]

I want to be cremated as Im terrified of waking up in a coffin, Im scared of the dark and I dont fancy the idea of being eaten by worms and bugs!

I would like my ashes to be buried somewhere, near the sea preferably with a pink headstone!!

xx

[weeal]

ooh not nice subject, i would prefer cremation as one of my fears is being buried alive lol, claustrophobic wee me

other fear is...wait for it...spontaneous human combustion lol

[cazzz1975]

I would like to be cremated and used as pot pourii

[weeal]

lol cazzz, Ricky Fulton's wife kept his ashes on her coffee table, unsure if thats nice or not, are you particularly fragrant ? lol

[bigmamma]

Wish I hadn't just read natterleys and weeals answers ......
........shudder.......

[dot.hawkes]

I do want to be buried I think, but I don't want a funeral, they are too hard to deal with, just a few chosen words said at my grave side along to Moon River playing in the open air, that'll do me. With the prospect of attending a funeral looming ever closer at moment I probably am not being rational!

[beryllium]

Well then :D

Hello Fr Bill,

I want to be made into a diamond. :)

B. xxx

[weeal]

beryllium - "shine on you crazy diamond"
what an interesting thought

[moonshadow]

Cremation is my choice with my ashes scattered off the jetty at Conwy quay as the tide goes out.

[meltoadhall]

cremation then scattered over the highlands of scotland

[beryllium]

oooh... weeal :)
Good tune lol.... maybe a song to be played at the bye... see you soon???.... thing.

Fr Bill.

a Q.

What odd songs have you had to listen to in your time? when burying in England? if you do here too that is..... :) xxx

[bigmamma]

I notice nobody has opted for donating their corpse to be used by Dr Gunther von Hagens , for plastination .........
.......shudder again ....

[smudge]

Hi Fr Bill & all - I asked this question some years back, so here's a few more thoughts on it:

http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Body-and-Soul/Q uestion59947.html

Hope you all enjoyed your roast dinners! ;o}

[laurence2]

What about you then Vicar?

[VillageVicar]

What interesting answers everyone! I find it fascinating that several people share the same thoughts about being buried alive. When I was a child, I had the same fear. But I blame my parents for having taken me to cinema to see the House of Usher�awful! And an awful thing to do to a child. I still recall the nighmares!

Moon River- I actually played that at one of my funerals on Friday. The deceased�s husband asked for it. He couldn�t remember the name, so he hummed it to me. I think it�s a lovely tune. For this funeral I chose Andy Williams singing it.

Leaving your ashes on the mantel: That too is a common practice. But it always leaves the rather uncomfortable decision to others, what to do, when you�re no longer there. What do they do with all these ashes!

Smudge: Thanks for that. It gives a rather interesting audit trail of thoughts. Again, the prevailing thought was the fear of being buried alive�as well as the fear of vermin.

Recognising that it�s illegal to strew ashes into the sea, what are some of the other options? Would you prefer to have your cremains interred at a cemetery with a small stone of remembrance, or leave them at the crematory (I have my own thoughts about that), or cast the into the garden?

Thank you for all your thoughts. It�s a wonderful insight t society�s changing trends.

Fr Bill

[beryllium]

MiL was interred last week. They bought a small plot for both of them.

She would joke that if we have her on the mantle that she wanted stick on eyes on the urn so she could keep her eye on us!!! lol

Moon River. Audrey Hepburn.

What are your plans then Fr Bill???

[Beads]

To be honest VillageVicar the thought of both give me the right heebie jeebies. Therefore, I can't make up my mind. I think I'd let the people left decide - whatever makes it easier for them as they're the ones who have to go through it all.