crush on married woman

[filthiestfis]

I have a crush on a girl at the office I work with but she is recently married :-( but we get on sooooo well hehe...shes only 24 so I think she made the wrong decision in marrying so quickly! She told me that I would make good husband for her if she wasnt already married but I reckon it was a joke. How can I get her off my mind? I work 8 hours of the day with her in a small office. Should I quit my job and become a priest? Would that help?

[filthiestfis]

She doesnt have a sister she is an only child :(
She does know indirectly. For example I bought her a kettle to use at work cos the one here is broken so she could make herself coffee. Sometimes I bring her little things like a box of biscuits or I offer to help her in other ways BUT that is as far as it can go.

[Jillius]

I wish someone had a crush on me !! I'd be chuffed to monkeys. I bet she is too !

[filthiestfis]

Octavious I can understand how you feel. Im the jealous type too. In fact, I think the majority of men are.

[4GS]

Oh you romantic old fool, buying her a kettle and biscuits?
Who said romance is dead?

PMSL

[cazzzz1975]

why dont you focus your attention on people you can date? you are just wasting precious time with someone that probably just enjoys having a mans attention whilst being safe enough not to have to worry about you asking her out...

[sense4all]

You could go to her house at Christmas with a tape of carol singers and declare your undying love on cue cards ...
lol

[andy-hughes]

Welcome to office life!

Because we spend more time per day in the company of our colleagues than we do with our spouses, close reltionships are absolutely natural, but you have to see them for what they are.

Rest assured, she may well confide in you secrets that she tells no-one else, including her husband - the problem is if you start to interperet this as a deper level of contact than it actually is.

Yes, in some ways, and some areas, you will both have an empathy that she shares with no-one else, but never ever confuse this for something that is lacking in her marriage, and that she would leave her marriage for - it is not.

What you wild have is a deep friendship, which is really good to have, but if you overbalance it by trying to see something that is not there, you will loose her completely.

Accept that she likes and appreciates you, but she has a husband, and it's not you, and won;t be.

It is hard - I have been there, but you must see this clearly, and don;t be distracted by wanting to see things that really aren't there.

There is a very simple golden rule all men whould know about all women. If she wants you to 'move up a notch' in your relationship - she will let you know. If she isn;t letting you know, then she isn;t interested.

It's harsh, but it saves your dignity and her embarassment, always worth it in the end.

[gravytate]

suggestions:

1)befriend her hubby and have 3somes
2) turn gay
3) get picture and stick her face on head of girls in porn magasine
4) stalk her
5) while she isnt there get her mobile and put your number in her phone under her husbands name. Then you can textr her telling her you love her and she will say the same back to you.
6) when she farts try get some in a jar and smell it whilst looking at her picture. will soon put you off

HOpe this yelps

[filthiestfis]

How can I get her off my mind? That is the questiom in the description above. It's not How can I get her into bed?
As for the kettle etc those are not meant to be romantic gifts, why should they be? She is out of bounds. They are practical things. Yes, people are quick to judge and condemn.

[Hellyon]

There is nothing wrong with having a crush on someone as long as you don't act on it. Does the crush give you pleasure, or make you miserable? Basically if it gives you pleasure then why not continue having the crush. The feeling of being 'in love (or lust)' is a unique experience which, if you actually acted on it would ultimately fade away. So enjoy the crush but get yourself a girlfriend, any other way will only lead to misery and heart ache.

[filthiestfis]

Yes Hellyon Spot on! That's what I'm talking about. It does make me feel good and yes I should get myself a girlfriend who can be the object of my affections.

[sense4all]

If you can still laugh at the situation check this out.

http://www.zeppotron.com/romance/xmas_special. html

[Supernick]

Andy - I could do with a list of things that women do when they want you to 'move it up a notch'. If I can get these memorised then I'm thinking that I'll be a lot better off.
My crush asks me to lunch, does possesive little things like giving me her scarf to keep warm, is quite touchy-feely etc. Actually those could just be friendly things. I'm projecting romantic intention onto these. Gotcha.

[andy-hughes]

Thank you SupaStar - your observations are greatly appreciated.