your ex and siblings

[mizfiesta]

I have been separated from my husband, whom I have kids with, since 2000. He has since remarried and I myself am in a relationship. The relationship with my ex is not too bad though there have been plenty of downpoints in the past. I really don't see him that much though he still maintains contact with the kids. Anyway, I found out that my younger brother and his partner were out for a meal with my ex husband and his new wife a few nights ago and I feel irritated. My brother knows that I've had my share of worry and irritation, as most of us do with our exes, so I feel he has been a bit disloyal to me by going out for a meal etc. One side of me realises I'm being petty as it is all water under the bridge but another part of me is bloody annoyed! I just wanted to ask everyone on AB how they would feel in the same circumstances?

[br21]

Yer I wud feel annoyed too. Your bro should no better, yet on the other hand he could let you know what was said and if life is rosy for your ex... and if the grass is really greener on the other side ! I'm afraid you just have to accept it.

[DONNAKEBABUK]

I would feel betrayed too and I would mention to your brother that you are quite hurt by this and how would he feel if it were the other way around.

You still have the worries and irritations and unfortunately when you have children they dont go away.

You have a right to be annoyed, it is not petty it is downright hurtful.

Mention it to your brother, definately. It is disloyal to you. FULL STOP !!!!

Take care and calm down with a bottle of wine tonight (preferably out of any money you get for maintenance!).

I am on your side on this one.

Take Care

katie.

xx

[mizfiesta]

Thanks Katie, you made me chuckle with the wine and maintenance comment

xxx

[lil123]

Yes I would be pretty annoyed too I think ! Maybe you could have a chat with your brother about it

[innocenti]

I wouldnt be happy about it either and I would see it as very disloyal. I know it can be seen as petty, but it would annoy the hell out of me!

[Beanmistriss]

I disagree with everyone else. While you and your ex were togehther they obviously got on and now you've split up I don't see why that should have to change. My uncle split up with his wife but her and her new partner are still invited to any family get togethers as everyone still considers her to be part of the family in a way - this is especially true as they have kids together. My ex boyfriend still goes to visit my parents and my boyfriend now still has contact with his ex's sister and brother-in-law. I actually think it's a bit selfish to expect everyone to give up contact with someone they get on with just because you don't want to be with them anymore. Unless obviously he was a wife beter or something then I think you'd have a point :) x

[Beanmistriss]

*beater