Lack of confidence

[Soph20]

I am 20 and lack confidence. How can I get some and quick? People say I will get more confident with age but I feel I should be more confident now. Like in my work as administrator I am sometimes too self concious to phone people and this stops me getting my work done.
I have been doing this job for 4 years and don't feel like I have gained much confidence at all. Anyone else in the same boat or can anyone reassure me. Many thanks

[tazz]

yes i have thought aby it soth. i kinda know what started it 4getmenot well i think anyway but its really silly. but its only thing i can think of. im 28 soth nearly 29 n i had more confidence whrn i was younger

[tazz]

yeah i have thought about it soph but cant seem to do it. i think i know what started it 4getmenot but its really sill y thats y i donno if it can be fixed. im 28 nearly 29 soph n i used to have more confidence

[tazz]

sorry didnt think it went throu first time but must of

[Soph20]

Mormess, what job do you do? I bet even though you hate it on the phone, I bet you still sound really confident. Like if I think of the people I speak to on the other end of the phone. Theres not one that ever sounds unconfident. It just feels like its me.

[4getmenot]

it doesnt matter how silly you think it is, if it has made you like this then it is in no way silly. Please see if you can get help, think of the life you may be missing out on. xx

[Soph20]

So forgetmenot did you just get more confident with age then or is there another trick?

The people I speak to on the other end of the phone never seem unconfident. Sometimes they are even really chatty and I hate this as I'm too unconfident and self concious to chat back.

It seems that some people overcome this problem easier than others.

[Soph20]

Mormess what job do you do?

What sort of calls do you have to make?

[tazz]

thanx 4getmenot u made me feel more better to see someone now n i will build up the confidence to do this now.xx

[4getmenot]

I think with age I spose and practice on the phones. when I first started I was terrified of it, but I do it that often now I dont even think about it, soph I really feel that you will benefit from some sort of group like a self confidence group or hypnopherapy (my friend had it done before she had to do a big speech) and tazz as you seem to think you know what it is that changed you I'm glad you have decided you need to see a counseller, We can all tell you what to do but you need to help yourself. xx

[4getmenot]

Or just both hit the town with me one night :-)

[tazz]

yeah i will now. lol yeah a good nite out i aint had in awhile where u from 4getmenot

[4getmenot]

Sunny old Norfolk. lol

[tazz]

lol no idea where that is. im in sunny old bristol

[4getmenot]

Norfolk is a county

[tazz]

oh right lol never was good in geog. im in england

[Marijn]

Norfolk is far east. The mid-point between Bristol and Norfolk would be round about Buckinghamshire.

[zzxxee]

if you have been in the job 4 years your doing something right...... have you thought about a life coach?

[Soph20]

Oh god no couldn't have a night out 4getmenot, I am not confident for that either. It takes a lot more than alcohol to get me on the dancefloor! Something else I wish I could do!

zzxxee I have thought about a life coach but they all cost money

[tazz]

lol is that a diff country again. just looked on world map but cant find it