feeling lonely

[mango]

why can you feel just as lonely in a room full of friends as when you are on your own?

[bernardo]

being autistic means that it quite often happens.

[DOB]

Without meaning to frighten you, it is possible that you suffer from depression to some extent. I have often been at a party with all my friends and still felt like I was all alone in the world. It's pretty tough at the time. I suggest that you talk to a close friend or alternatively you should seek counselling.

Thousands of people in UK & Ireland suffer from depression on a daily basis and do nothing about it. Try to talk to a friend about it. Trust me, life isn't as bad as it seems.

[coggles]

Bernado, knowing a little bit more about you than DOB might, why don't you explain a bit more about what it is like, as I am sure many people would be more understanding in the future. I hope none of that sounded patronising.

[tortoiseshel]

oh my god! Just because you feel lonely in a room full of "friends" i don't think it means you're suffering from depression. Do you think that it could be that you just don't have much in common with them anymore? Maybe they don't understand you as well as other people you could meet in the future could. I've felt the same in the past at times, but it has usually been because I just don't have much in common with those people there.

[PurplePixie]

I suppose I often feel like that. But some times it just means (as has been said) that the people you are surrounded by at that moment may just not be on your wavelength..and it makes you at that moment in a bit of a minority. But if you can find confidence in your own beliefs, self worth & opinions & get to think you're an OK sort of person..I think it means that you have the strength to just shrug & say to yourself "So what, I'm happy as I am" I used to get all screwed up about not fitting in & generally sat in groups of people wondering if I was on the same planet as everyone else! After a lot of thought, I have realised that I LIKE the planet I am on & it probably IS a different one to everyone elses!! I've heard lots of people say they've felt lonely in a group, so you're definitely not alone.

[lisadippolit]

either you been on a recent break up and cant get over it yet, or wanting a relationship. my sister prefered that for me.. i was like that.

[bernardo]

What the dickens are you talking about DOB? I was answering the question!!!! What on earth is wrong with that?!?!? How on earth does anything about my answer indicate "grumpy"? And what gives you the right to tell mango to ignore my helpful comment?!?!? I can only repeat what I said in the first place: Being autistic means that it is very easy to feel lonely, and not be able to interact with people effectively, even when there are lots of people there.

So, DOB, if you have some sort of problem with the answer I have given, then I want you to explain what problem you have rather than being so rude to me.

[bernardo]

FTAO AB Editor : Why has my previous answer to this question been removed? I made a helpful comment about my experiences as an autistic person not being able to interact with people, but now it's gone! I notice that a subsequent response by someone who was being rude to me has also been removed, but why did you remove my orinal answer as well?

[Yinzer]

It happens to me too, and I usually find later that I have nothing to do with these people. I'm trying to be social and make friends or whatever and I learn that these just aren't the type of people I can truly get down with. Other times when I'm with real good friends I find it happening when I have some emotional stuff I'm carrying around. Whether it's something more simple like oh I'm so poor, or something more complicated like I feel bad about character flaws I can't change or how did my life get like this etc. Like they say, one is a crowd and three is never enough.