Best Friend Bother

[ilsonchick]

Hey guys me again with yet another question! On Friday night last week i was due to go out to a game of poker at my friends house which is what we do every single week for relaxing and fun. My best friend (Miss S) whose 23 and doesnt work due to having a form of arthritus normally comes with her boyfriend. Last week though i had a phone call from the person who sets up the poker game (Mr M) saying he had rang them both and the boyfriend (Mr B) said Miss S had ran off due to an arguement with Mr B. So i told Mr M i would ring Miss S and see if she was ok as i care about her like a sister. I rang her and she was very abrupt answering the phone which isnt normal, saying *yeah what?* so i asked her about what had happened and if she wanted to talk. She said she wanted to be left alone (she was sat in tesco carpark bearing in mind it was 7pm and freezing) saying she wasnt going back to him as she thought he had cheated on her. I told her i was here for her and suggested she come up to my house and sleep over to have a nights break from Mr B and sort it out in the morning as i didnt want her sleeping in a carpark in her car! She said *no i just wanna be on my own* so i said thats fine but you cant sleep in your car in this weather! She didnt wanna go back to Mr B and kept saying she didnt have anywhere to go so i kept saying come to mine! My bf was also saying to her on the phone *just come over were worried* and she kept refusing saying she would be fine and ring me later.

[ilsonchick]

***Part 2***
So i decided not to go out incase she needed me and needed to stay over and my bf went without me. No phone call by 10pm so i tried ringing her twice and she cut me off. Then i got a text message instantly saying she was fine and she would ring me the next day. Next day no call then i had a text about 2pm saying *cant ring you now as back at Mr B's ring you later* This was on Saturday afternoon so i left it and didnt ring her and didnt text back as i had no cred. Now its Monday night, i havent heard a thing, no text or call and im really really sick and could do with a cheer up from my best mate. BUT i i feel angry with her...i was there for her and gave my night up incase she needed a place to stay...and she was nasty with me on the phone and never texted me and cut my calls off. Because Miss S is always sick and down and doesnt have a job and lots of problems im always there for her and have been for over 2 years but now i feel when i need her she doesnt give 2 s**ts. When im sick, need a chat or just wanna nip over for a cuppa i always get over the phone *ohhhh im busy or i dunnnooo im tooo tired* im not asking her to move anywhere im saying i will come visit!!! To cheer her up!!! Do i not ring her now until she contacts me? Do i just ring her and be normal? Or do i wait till she contacts me and tell her im a bit angry with how she was with me at the weekend? My bf says hes fed up of her taking the p**s when we just help her all the time and when i need her she dont seem to care at all.... Sorry it seems my life story is on here! I just need a friend and advice :(

[Jafi]

If it was me i would just leave her be. You were there for her when she needed someone, but like you say she's never got the time for you. Friendship is a two way street.

[sara3]

take some time out, and give her poor ears a break!

blimey ;o)

[ChuckFickens]

I'll give you an answer when it's turned into a film.

[Ice.Maiden]

Leave her be for a bit, ic. You've been there as a good friend, but perhaps she just wants to sort things out on her own, without having to explain things to anyone - including you. Good friends don't expect anything back, anyway. If she needs you, she knows where you are, and then it's up to you whether you want to be there for her or not.

[aniani]

Well said, Chuck

[ilsonchick]

Can i just say i ask for advice not for my life to be mocked.

[PatriciaH]

She does sound to me like an attention seeker , id leave her to come grovelling back .. when she does, act cool , you sound like a caring person , dont take to heart some answers you dont like xx

[ilsonchick]

thank u PatriciaH xx