Glidr, apologies for my silliness.
"For the first time in my life i feel happy and confident with who I am."
I think you have answered your own question here. If you are happy with the situation, and the missus is okay with it, then why are you asking for other folks' opinions?
It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. And no, you are not a pervert because the clothes you wear are not "traditionally male". Fill yer boots lad. There are far worse things you could be dabbling in.