what are the consequences?

[samsworld]

recently found out my husband has been having an affair with a much younger girl. i have confronted her and told her i will inform her parents, i think something which would be mortifying, well it would if it happened to me the shame of it. is there anything wrong or illegal in phoning her dad up at work and telling him just how moralistic his daughter is and how he must have brought her up badly. ive heard all the takes two to tango stuff, ive already dealt with hubby shall we say. i just feel i want closure on this girl and i wont stop til ive done something to ruin her life too, but will this? anyone else done a similar thing out there and if so what were the consequences? wanting to know too if its illegal to do this in case its classed as slander, though who can prove the phone call? after all its freedom of speech and all that isnt it?!

[samsworld]

so basically am i within my legal right to make this call because i will be doing it or can it be classed as slander or harrassment then police would get involved? hubby another story re staying or going, thats not the question here.

[ummmm]

Personally....If I received a phone call about my daughter.....the person phoning would get a mouthful.

Just because, as an adult, she has chose to do this doesn't mean her parents haven't brought her up with morals.

[ladybird49]

So if he did finish it with her youd carry on as normal then ?

[sara3]

can you not see how ridiculous you sound?

let her keep your husband, that would be the best revenge.

[bobjugs12]

Even better revenge would be to set her up with a drunken lech, who'll treat her like muck and break her heart........................................
.......like
me ;)

[samsworld]

when i confronted her i told her i had details about her and her family, parents etc. and she was shocked, saying that they had already changed their phone number at home. so i think she was afraid i would contact them. i cant go into too many details but she got my husband the sack and is still at work, she told lots of lies and the higher of the two positions was dismissed. so my question, do i have freedom of speech?

[ummmm]

You can phone whoever you want. You cannot harass them though.

[samsworld]

exactly, calling out the blue with such venom would surely be a shocker, that is the idea surely!

[sara3]

yes, but you're going to look like an idiot.

why don't you try to compose yourself and act like the grown up one here?

[ladybird49]

She got your husband the sack and hes still with her ? beggars beyong belief !

[ummmm]

How long were they having an affair?

[samsworld]

surely anyone can call it harrassment though?

[samsworld]

no i never said he was with her still, it lasted abt 3 months so im told.

[ummmm]

Making a phone call is not harassment. Continually phoning becomes harassment.

[ladybird49]

So why drag it all up then ?

[Sqad]

What you have described is the quickest way for your husband to "dump you" and to go and live with this "younger woman."

[carrust]

Do what you have to do. However, If you start humiliating her family you could open a can of worms of retribution...broken windows, slashed car tyres...or something worse...

[ladybird49]

so hes not been with her for 3 months as you know ... why do you want to pursue the issue ?

[samsworld]

i never said hes not been with her for three months, i said thats how long the affair lasted. it ended two weeks ago when my husband lost his job.

[ummmm]

So it only ended because he lost his job? It would still be going on now other wise....