what are the consequences?

[samsworld]

recently found out my husband has been having an affair with a much younger girl. i have confronted her and told her i will inform her parents, i think something which would be mortifying, well it would if it happened to me the shame of it. is there anything wrong or illegal in phoning her dad up at work and telling him just how moralistic his daughter is and how he must have brought her up badly. ive heard all the takes two to tango stuff, ive already dealt with hubby shall we say. i just feel i want closure on this girl and i wont stop til ive done something to ruin her life too, but will this? anyone else done a similar thing out there and if so what were the consequences? wanting to know too if its illegal to do this in case its classed as slander, though who can prove the phone call? after all its freedom of speech and all that isnt it?!

[ladybird49]

Is that why he finished the affair because she got him the sack ?

[samsworld]

no, i found out.

[ladybird49]

What has he had to say on the matter ?

[brenda]

Where is your dignity woman and your self respect ? Both going down the pan by the sound of it. So your husband had an affair with someone you say is a bit of a slapper, so what. He is the one you need to sort out.
Instead of telling her parents , and as you are determined to cause mayhem ,why not tell your own parents and those of your husband as well.
Telling her parents will only cause grief for them, have no effect on the daughter and make you appear to be inept at sorting out your husband and your problem.

[cherrychapstick]

i hope you have phoned your husbands parents and told them what a sleaze he is and that they brought him up with no morals,do you have children ? how would you feel if someone phoned you up to tell you your son or daughter were brought up badly because they done something like this!!! it happens and the only one at fault is your sleazy husband who probably started it because he didn't want to keep it in his trousers

[redcrx]

Im struggling to find your previous posts about this. I was sure it was a lot longer than 2 weeks ago that you were posting about your husband losing his job due to an affair with a colleague

[dmax]

something more to this than meets the eye

[ladybird49]

if she did red it must of been in a different name because ive put a search in under her name ( samsworld ) and the only post it brings up is this one ?

[B00]

Red, are you thinking of the poster who's husband had a baby with another woman?

Whilst this post is similar, i dont think it's the same person, though I could be wrong!

Samsworld- I'm gonna reiterate what everyone else has already said. I can't believe you've seriously thought of doing this to this woman, and she is a woman ,not a slip of a girl! And more importantly why you'd do this to her parents- what on earth have they ever done to you?

If my daughter at 28 was sleeping with a married man, whilst i wouldn't be impressed, it would be her life and not for me to lay the law down. Your husband is the one who commited adultery, not her, she's free to sleep with who she likes.

[redcrx]

nope, Im thinking of the poster who tried and tried to get help with the fact that her hubby had been sacked for having an affair at work even though the woman he had slept with retained her job and he was her superior.

[ummmm]

I agree with Cherry...make sure you let your husbands parents know about his lack of morals.

[cherrychapstick]

i remember reading that one red it definitely must be under a different user name though....looked through all my history but can't find it ....maybe it got deleted

[redcrx]

anyway, if you are or not, that doesnt really matter.

You sounds determined to take you act of revenge, regardless of what anyone says. Perhaps you had better watch your back.

i agree with cherry too, your husbands parents should also be told what a lying cheating scumbag he is :)

[redcrx]

thank you, Cherry, i though i was going mad when i couldnt find it. lol

[LoftyLottie]

I remember that post. Exactly the same style. Suspicious.

[samsworld]

the affair ended just over two weeks ago. no, i have never posted on here before. seems alot of it about obviously. i have told his parents what he is, they were shocked, so would her parents. i will be calling her parents without harrassment, they think she is a wonderful girl, even if she is free and single it doesnt give her the right to flirt with a married man. it does take two as ive said but she was one of the two! so i have freedom of speech and its only fair the truth be told so they see her for what she is inclined to do. tough on the parents but her fault for bringing cr*p to their doorstep. i would want to know if my daughter did anything like this for sure.

[redcrx]

yeah right! lol

she has got the right to flirt with whoever she wants, just as your husband had the right to complain about her sexual harrassment at work or ignore her

[4getmenot]

she's 28 nothing to do with her parents and I bet they are still at it

[redcrx]

youre right, 4get. May as well be hung as a sheep. And after all, he has lost his job so he isnt risking that

[samsworld]

i was not asking for answers re sorting out my husband, but instead about whether i had the right without prejudice to call her parents, freedom of speech, non slander. the right for me to say what i want to someone when i feel i want to about someone doing something wrong. of course i am furious and all the other emotions that go with it and shes got off scotfree.