its a long hard path you've chosen. Heartbreak for your family and jibes, embarrassment, avoidance from 'friends'.
Your lifestyle will be dark & hidden, you'll be watchful for jeering or beatings - that will also be painful for your children to know of. This is all besides the cost of ops/clothes/beauty care etc.
Our local (s)he sees the children furtively & siblings have no contact, and really is the joke of the town.....all very sad; as (s)he is a good person. If there is anyway for you to keep your desires within please try, to avoid the pain ahead.