Isnt in love with me anymore

[paulys]

My GF of 6 years told me 6 months ago she loves me more than anyone else in her life but is no long in love with me. She wants to work this out and fall back in love with me but doesnt seem like she can.
see cries everyday about it because she wants more than anything to have those feelings back. I love her so much and she says I haven't done or do anything wrong she just doesnt feel in love anymore.
What i cant understand is if this is so why does she get upset so much about it. We never argue and when she's not crying and we do go out we have great fun and laugh loads together. she calls or text me when ever we'r not together and still buys me little things when out and about... you know all the little things you do for one another none of that has gone.
They only thing is we havent had sex in a year :( she just doesnt fancy me but to that point she doesnt fancy anyone else either.
Please help I love he so much and don't want to lose her.

[woofgang]

difficult and sad. All I can think of is to give her the space and time that she wants...I don't think that there is anything that you can do.

[Lardhelmet_2]

You've become a nice cosy habit for her paulys - like a pair of old slippers. And loving someone is not the same as being in love with them. I'd rather have the latter to be honest

[DTCwordfan]

On that theme, if you press her, you will lose her.......give her the space and communication lines open. Writing e-mails or letters to each other can also help as it allows the expression of feelings and emotions in a non-confrontational way....

[joko]

is she on any medication? that can numb the senses a bit...could be making her feel nothing?

i would suggest maybe a trip away together? neutral ground, and just have fun...

[Marijn]

The "being in love" feeling doesn't last anyway, she's expecting too much. Just loving someone is enough. As for losing her sex drive, some contraceptive pills can cause that.

[ummmm]

The 'being in love' feeling does last.

[Marijn]

According to psychologists, it doesn't last. There is an optimum amount of time. Loving someone is good enough. You shouldn't expect to be "loved up" all the time.

[ummmm]

Well feeling loved up all the time is not realistic. You live with someone and they are bound to annoy you at times. I can honestly say that I love my OH more now than I did at the beginning.

[tastymorsel]

I was(and still am)deeply in love with my husband.We were married for almost 30 years and I still had goose bumps when I looked at him.When he left me for someone else he also said that he loved me but was no longer in love with me.I don't know what thGood luck to you.e answer is here but you can't force someone to have feelings that aren't there.Just give her space and hope that she will realise what she may lose.Good luck to you,

[Marijn]

Yes, hopefully you do grow to love your partner more. Also the Mirena coil, or any hormone tablets or anti-depressants or having depression can cause loss of sex drive.